Have you ever found yourself overwhelmed by your submissive feelings? Do they overtake you at times, even when you’re not necessarily thinking about anything sexy? Well, I’m here to reassure you that that’s perfectly normal. Many submissives find themselves overtaken by their submissive feelings at times. All it means is that you are, in fact, a sub and probably need an outlet for those feelings.
Submissive Feelings Are Perfectly Normal
Your submissive feelings are nothing to worry about. Being submissive doesn’t mean that you’re weak or that you’re somehow a freak. Personally, I think it’s wonderful that you have these feelings. Don’t worry, your desires just mean that you need a Femdom Mistress to help you safely and sanely explore your urges.
I know you’ve probably been thinking about what it would be like to serve an Experienced Mistress like me. Take a look at my phone sex reviews to see what others are saying. I think we would both thoroughly enjoy our time together.
You Need An Environment In Which To Explore
What you need–besides me, of course–is a safe environment in which to explore these submissive feelings of yours. I’ll be happy to provide you with that environment. You need to play, and you need to discover who you are as a sub. I’ll be happy to help you with that as well.
The great thing about being with a Mistress like me is that you don’t need to worry about anything. Leave that to me. You don’t have to think, don’t have to worry, don’t have to do anything but simply obey. I will make the rules and the decisions. You just have to follow them. It’s quite simple, really, and very freeing for someone who usually has to be the decision-maker in their day-to-day lives.
Focusing On Your Submission
Focusing on pleasing your Mistress and on your own submission will make you feel complete, finally. You’ll be able to experience the one thing you’ve been needing your whole life, which is to submit to a Dominant Woman.
When you find yourself getting really deep into your submission, you may find yourself drifting into subspace. Subspace, according to Feeld.co, is “the pleasurable altered headspace that the submissive partner experiences during a BDSM scene.” Some describe subspace as a feeling of floating or flying. It manifests slightly differently in everyone. But all subs will agree, once they have experienced it, that it’s a very nice place to be.
If you find yourself going into subspace when you’re with me, don’t panic. Nothing bad is going to happen to you. You are allowed to just let go and let yourself have this beautiful experience. I will do my best to take you there and let you feel it, at least once. It’s a wonderful state to be in, and I encourage you to just let it happen.
Your submissive feelings are very important to me. If you find that you have them and need to speak with someone about them, I would love to hear from you. It doesn’t matter to me what your kinks and fetishes are. The important thing is that you have someone to talk to about those submissive feelings of yours.
We can talk about the particulars of your kinks and fetishes later. For now, let’s focus on those submissive feelings. Some other time, we can discuss your thoughts on, say, guided masturbation, for instance. Right now, let’s uncover who you are and what it is you’re looking for in a dominant Mistress. All you have to do in order to do that is to simply give me a call!
Your Experienced Mistress,
Ms Olivia
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Ohh my god, this blog could not have come at a better time! I find I’m absolutely going close to subspace of some sort recently. Like, I’ll just be going about my day to day life, and then boom, I’m hit with those very submissive feelings your blog post describes in such excellent detail. This really spoke to me, and I’m grateful that you touched on this. It makes me feel a bit less alone!
Kitty you are NOT alone in your feelings, I promise you that!
I liken the experience of subspace to the feeling of that first orgasm … it’s like oh my oh my oh my I want more of THAT! LOL. Know what I mean? MY version is getting into Domme space so I sure can relate!
Oh my yes, Mistress Olivia! You nailed it!! (No pun intended….ok, we’ll maybe it was. Lol). I would like to say that I too experience this and Kittykitty you are NOT alone! Mistress Olivia is the PERFECT Mistress to take care of you and guide you and allow you to be free to be yourself! I absolutely adore her and trust her implicitly. So I know you and others can as well.
Ahhhhh, I adore you slutpie!
Ms Erika asked a fantastic question and I it would make a great episode for The Weekly Hot Spot.
I just approved her comment so you can see it — but here’s the question so it’s handy: Did you have to “come to terms” with your submissive feelings? She points out that some sexually submissive men need to sort of work through the cultural messages of the submissive partner being the weak one. You know I respect the hell outta you, you are NOT weak in any form …. it’s POWER EXCHANGE and if you had no power there would be nothing to exchange and this would be tedious or boring or pointless. What do you think?
Absolutely!!! Especially with married gf telling me to see her dressed up as a girl! How can I say no or resist her? I can’t!!! As well you dressing turning and keeping me as your lipstick lesbian girlfriend with lipstick kisses on my cheeks.
You are such a pretty submissive girl!
I absolutely get what you mean!! I definitely get that floaty feeling and usually writing erotica or listening to the various audios kinda help me to relax into the feelings, but I think there’s more of a powerful effect at play when exploring alongside a mistress or what have you! Although sometimes the subspace feelings can get kinda powerful, it’s never unpleasant per se.
I also gotta say your point about submission being freeing for the decision-makers in life really resonated with me as well.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful response, and I apologize for my wall of text! You’ve just really got me reflecting and thinking and that’s so amazing. You really have an amazing power to you!
I’ve never thought of someone getting into subspace without a Mistress (or other Dominant) …. now I’m so curious! Tell me more!!
OH OH OH and the “taking a break” from being the decision maker is so powerful – I think that’s a very human reaction and it’s seen all over outside of D/s situations …. for example, have you ever turned off your brain and binge watched something? I often think that’s a similar impetus – you know, being “outside” of the ‘normal.’ Does that make sense?
Beautiful post, my friend! It’s true many males who have submissive feelings, also have to work against their cultural message that deems submissive males as inferior or weak. Not necessarily so! Sure some love the humiliation of “beta play” of being emasculated through your submission but it’s not a given and many submissive males do not have that experience!
I wonder what your fans have to say about their “coming to terms” with their submissive feelings!
WOW Ms Erika! What a great question! That would be a great topic for a future podcast. Not sure what the title would be – but don’t you think that topic would be perfect for our BDSM kink podcast? Maybe wellspanked and slutpie will have some ideas!
Im so so sub Ladies twirlllll and curtsey
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you ARE a submissive sissy … that’s it curtsy for your Mistress!
Misstress Erika the photo is the signal that this man wants a BJ if he does that on the beach ⛱️ we go into the woods and yes you guessed it it????????????????????
And you give him a blow job like a good sissy.
I do and I just love a dick in my mouth ???? and love ball sucking too. How did I get this way? oh what does it matter it’s either sucking cock or no sex life. I can’t fuck my pillow / I won’t masturbate because I don’t want to clean up a mess . so suck a dick with a condom
I’ve finally admitted to myself how much less endowed I am then 95% of the men in every locker room and Sauna I visit around the world. I used to block thinking about it, but now it’s becoming liberating and a bit of a fetish. I feel some pleasure in being submissive at least in the sense of everyone in the room knows mine is the smallest. Some time ago a man who I had been in the lockers with pointed me out to his girlfriend and I heard him say “he has a small dick” and she started giggling at me. I instantly became hard and had to walk away. I don’t mind this now, because as Ms. O said, it’s not a sign of weakness or weirdness.
Awwwww, that made ME giggle too!
tee hee
It’s not a sign of weakness and, in fact, are you a fan of our BDSM kink podcast, The Weekly Hot Spot? Ms Erika and I talk about small penis humiliation and I always point out that sph is FUN — fun for sure for us but also for the “poor” guy we’re laughing at.
Ms. O,
Since discovering your site, and our e-mails, which I am SO grateful for, I have become a huge fan of your podcast. I have shared it with a few others as well. I haven’t found the episode on SPH, so I’ll look for it tonight when I leave work. I’ve never liked admitting that my cock is small, I still think 4 inches is the new 6! But I’m much more comfortable accepting that my cock is very small when flaccid, and it’s gotten a lot of attention that has always aroused me even if I didn’t want to admit it. As you mentioned earlier in this post, it’s thrilling and exciting for someone in a senior management role who usually displays confidence and conditioned to masculine norms to suddenly feel vulnerable and submissive through SPH. I’ve never discussed my SPH experiences before our exchanges, and it’s new and exciting territory for me. Thank you so much!
May I ask, have you ever considered having fans join your podcast to tell their stories of experiencing SPH? That would be very fascinating, and with your expertise it would be very helpful to listen to you break it down so those of us who experience SPH (voluntarily or not!) can learn more about ourselves.
Hi there!
Thank you so much for the compliments for the BDSM kink podcast that I do with Ms Erika. We have a great time on The Weekly Hot Spot and we appreciate all the wonderful feedback.
We’ll think about your idea and thank you.
Right now, we have a tight schedule but you never know about the future.
Miss O,
Thank you for entertaining my idea, I realize you and Ms. Erika have built an empire of a podcast with the Weekly Hot Spot that must keep you incredibly busy. I have no idea how you find the time to connect with so many of us so consistently and passionately. Yesterday I listened to your episode with Olivia Bentley, and it further reinforced my new respect for what you, Ms. Erika and Ms. Bentley do from a business, educational, and community entrepreneurship perspective that is far more relevant than I previously understood. It prompted me to look up Ms. Bentley and it appears she helps people in a similar way that y’all do.
I am going to keep on listening to the podcast and much respect to all the great work you do.
I’m so glad you listened to the Olivia Bentley podcast episode. I’ve heard from a lot of people that they’re surprised that this IS treated like a business – it’s an admittedly very FUN business and, for us, there sure are aspects of business and entrepreneurial skill sets.
The podcast does take a lot of time – I’m doing scheduling new for some really interesting future guests so stay tuned!
Ms Olivia, Are those your garter belts which you are holding in your hand in the middle picture above? If so, you have them to hand and ready to tie up any male submissive who steps out of line (LOL!).
The middle picture? No – those are the tails on a flogger … but, now that you mention it, it’d be pretty fun to tie you up with a 6 or 8 strap garter belt and then toss you back down in the basement!
Ms Olivia, I get the impression that you enjoyed doing that judo flip on me!! I didn’t know too much about it. It all happened so quickly as you flipped your hips and tossed me down to the basement. I was almost out cold as I reached my destination.
Really? So, you missed the thump thump thump down the stairs?
I excel with that judo flip.
Well, Ms Olivia, in line with the theme of this blog, I can say that after you performed that judo flip on me, I felt very very submissive!!
very submissive?
Are you sure?
You LOOKED like you were very unconscious.
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Well, Ms Olivia, I know from experience that you are capable of knocking a guy out with your charm and good looks or with your martial arts skills!! Either way you’re a real knockout lady!
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Mind and body knockout ….
with a little help from my ……..
KNICKERS !
Say it with me …. laughs
I wouldn’t say submissive feelings overtake me, but definitely feminine feelings do.
xxxxxxx
Yvonne
That’s a really great point!
And we’ve talked about cycles that femme ladies go through — I’m glad you never did the purge cycles (OMG could you imagine????). That’s a sad part of the cycle….:(
Great blog. Yes I would agree, subspace is very special and you also make one feel safe, while enjoying the need for being submissive. It comes so frequently back calling to me and this post make me feel better. Thank you
I’m so glad to hear this Christina Giselle — being submissive is such a primal urge for those that have submissive tendencies. It’s just like me with my Dominant tendencies. I’m really glad to have an outlet for these fun ways to play.
Dear Mistress Olivia,
What happened to the Sexy Photos. I lived for them.
Oh damn! I’m so glad you said something — I redid the page and must not have saved the changes … or “something” who knows what.
At any rate, take a look NOW !!!!!!
grins
I Loooooooooooooooove submitting to you Mistress Olivia!
I Loooooooooooooooove being under your control Goddess Olivia!
I Loooooooooooooooove your laughter while you play with me Humiliatrix Olivia!
Have I told you what a magnificent woman you are lately?
I can’t believe we keep missing one another!
I do love seeing those videos!
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Videos? What videos?????
LOL !!!
This discussion reminds me of another SPH and submission moment that was unique from some years ago. I was at a bar and a man who knew a friend of mine hit on me a few times in a very sexual way. I let him know I wasn’t gay, and everything was friendly and the evening went on. Then I went to use the restroom (urinal) and suddenly he pulled up right next to me and said “so we meet again”and pulled out his large cock and started peeing, looking at mine, which was barely poking out of my zipper. I felt an immediate and intense tingle of erotic and embarrassment and sense of being dominated. I thought about it a lot after that and think had I been willing, he would have dominated me intensely. His was a lot bigger than mine, and I pulled mine back into my pants out of embarrassment. I have thought many times since then about how he could have dominated me. It was powerful.
What a great and very hot story!
You’re not alone in feeling submissive to a man with a big cock, and, in my experience, you don’t have to be gay or bi to have those urges. For some people, it is the sexual attraction of a beautiful big dick. For others, like you, it’s the feeling of humiliation and all that goes with it.
Hi Mistress O,
Yes it was an intense experience, and completely unexpected. I’ve had similar experiences with other very well hung men at spas and gym showers. But I was caught off guard by this man, who was fairly aggressive pulling his big cock out right beside me, and showed up unexpectedly. I think he was even happier when he saw how much smaller mine is than his and my look of embarrassment. It’s been many years but I still remember that moment and wonder what he would have done to continue dominating me.
There are lots of dominant men who love to … ahem …. inspire others to suck their cocks.
Hi Ms. I,
I have just returned from Asia (Japan and China) and several spa visits where I was nude with a lot of other men. One seemed to take some time to hit on me, I’m straight and we got along fine, but the fact we were both nude, he was sitting next to me in the hot pool and at my shower making conversation (he spoke English and owned a restaurant in the states), and how obviously more hung he was, and how in great shape, again became a moment that made me have to find a private corner to masturbate, even though I am not gay/bi. While I’m admitting the SPH aspect of these moments clearly makes me uncontrollably get aroused and humiliated, I really want to be on the “top” of the cock list again, at least for the holidays, and dominate a sexy woman despite not being big. Advice?
Hmmmm …. help me to understand the advice you want?
Getting a girlfriend — being with a woman? If you’re ‘not big’ then ….. hmmmmm it’s possible but you obviously must bring something other than cock size to the relationship.
Well, my sense of humor has always been one of my stronger assets!
A sense of humor is the key to my heart!
For me personally, if something like this with Elbert happens at non beach environment I just ignore it . But at the beach when I am wearing panties and wanting cock . If the dick looks nice it’s getting sucked. At he beach I have in the past turned down a big hairy dicks. There was one where he was starring at my ass in admiration i walked past on the beach in the opposite direction I turned around he turned around and was smiling ???? he pulled his bikini swimsuit down a little bit in the front and showed a bush of salt and pepper hair I observed at the time wasn’t attracted to him but now if I see him again . I am going to suck it and try not to get any hair stuck in my teeth
Sounds like you NEED dick to suck!
I do need a dick to suck soon or else a woman might want me .
Must have submissive feelings
I ended up in women’s thong panties and flat chastity cage
sucking men’s dick
nods
And you were submissive BEFORE discovering that you love being in chastity, wearing thong panties and sucking a cock … or did you discover being submissive once you put on panties?
Panties were ths started it all
I always admired stockings & lingerie and before I knew it I ended up in them after the panties. After that I was a lipstick Lesbian Crossdresser . I am submissive to women and a beautiful DICK
Panties are the gateway for many a sissy!
After panties things started to happen but rejection from women sent me down the Rabbit Hole. Being told because I have tiny penis and belong in chastity affected me. But I love wearing this smallest women’s thong panties I can fit in and showing my self on the beach.
Is it going down a sissy rabbit hole or, perhaps, is it DESTINY!?!
Shurley destiny. The pleasure I get from walking around on the beach in panties. And sucking cock in that environment. I could never suck a cock in the men’s restroom at a bar or a motel
Really?
You don’t want to suck cock in a motel?
Not really ???? at least not a man’s cock . I would suck your cock anywhere in Yankee Stadium or Tropicana Field.
pfffffttttttt …. Yankee Stadium ….. I’m a Mets fan so if you were MY cock sucking sissy I would say Citi Field!
LOL
ok I could not think of Citi Field I knew there is no longer Shea Stadium. Well I really do want to be your sissy Cock sucker
I was stupid with women in my younger days I wanted that I wanted and couldn’t have and didn’t get with women who liked me . Now my life is pussy free and free from pussy. Encouraged by Enchantrix Mistresses and women on the Internet who have seen my profile pics and told me that I belong in panties and chastity I have accepted my fate and suck dicks that I find attractive. For me the beach environment of being isolated away from the crowd seeing men in g string or thong sometimes nude when I am in thong panties and in chastity is the perfect situation for me to be a cock sucker
Sounds like you have the perfect cock sucking plan – and I do laugh when you say you’re pussy free.
I am pussy free because?
Can’t get any. No one gives me any pussy. Pussy is a gift. If no gives me pussy I don’t get any pussy. l love pussy. I want pussy.But you can’t always get what you want. But if you try sometime. You get what you need
This is so ….. fucking …. delightful!
I can HEAR the ache in your words …. pussy free for life!
You will never know the feeling of rejection because of a tiny penis
I know I can never satisfy any woman but I still have eat. I haven’t had an erection in 8 years or more only my nipples get hard thinking about cock or when sucking cock
Yes I can’t get any pussy.
I couldn’t pleasure her with shrimpy.Do pussyfree I must be and also Free From Pussy. I often wonder ???????? Why do women smile at me ???? like in a store of any kind?;????????Some are often with a man and they smile ☺️ at me when the dude they sre with is not looking some say high
Before crossdressing & sissification . I had fantasies of being on my knees in front of women in Dominatrix Attire and giving these women oral sex.
Also any woman with stockings especially women over thirty and up to 70
Ohhhhhh so you also have a stocking fetish?
Oh ???? I did not think ???? of stockings and panty hose as a fetish . I have worn both as a crossdresser and yes liked seeing women wearing them. Even now when I go to Church in total man mode or with panties underneath I do notice stockings or hose. Ok fetish is ???? fun
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I often think I have a fetish for stockings and shoes — I have so many!
I suppose I do . Many of us T Girls wear panty hose to clitty stick ???? I have had conversations with other crossdressers who have worn up 8 pairs of panty hose to hide Mr. Clitty. Those are T Girls have a Mr. Clitty that’s too big for her panties.Only one pair of panty hose is enough to make my Mr. Clitty into The Invisible Clitty
Nods, you’re right … while a sissy often/usually has a small penis or clitty … that’s not the case for all … some have large cocks … that’s when you need a tuck kit. You don’t need a tuck kit.
Yes I suppose I do have a stocking fetish. But this is overshadowed by The sissificitation and Gender bender issues why yes panti hose %•• Fetish. It’s cold here a woman wore slacks and underneath she had pantyhose. I checked her feet
The photo of the man holding his cock on the page is causing me to have submissive feelings right now I want to be on my knees in front of him sucking his cock
That’s GOOD! That’s why I posted that image. And when you see a cock, you want to suck it don’t you?
Oh yes In some circumstances. Especially like what you have posted. In a locker room or shower situation dick is ugly and nasty ewewwww or a man in blue jeans or with clothing. But a g string or thong or nude on an isolated beach and I become a major league cock sucking Faggot sissy panty boi Dick lover
WOW! I LOVE looking at cocks in jeans or underwear …. and showers? Oh hell yeah.
I know I have some T Girls with beautiful big cocks. I have met a Trans girl at the beach and she is keeping her cock. I showed her my tiny dicklet in chastity i might start looking at dicks just to be able to talk dick with you
we should look at cocks together
I would love that …. let’s do a session and look at dicks together!
Not at all. Yesterday in a crowded restaurant men’s s man turned around quickly from urinal outfit it away
Like so what no urge for me . But on the beach I remember before my crossdresser days I was only just a straight sunbather in a male g string. I walked in the woods behind the beach similar in activity of the Enchanted Forest. Well there was a man pulling on his cock I walked past and said nice Dick he smiled and said thanks. Now today if this were to happen I Shurley would be sucking him.
Oh yeah you’ve be on your knees sucking that cock!
I love cock if I tell a man he has a nice cock . I will suck it
I can’t stop admiring that image . I may goon some nice cock
Where do you go to find nice cocks like that . I like your taste in cocks
Yes I can’t get any pussy.
I couldn’t pleasure her with shrimpy.Do pussyfree I must be and also Free From Pussy. I often wonder ???????? Why do women smile at me ???? like in a store of any kind?;????????Some are often with a man and they smile ☺️ at me when the dude they sre with is not looking some say high
I know I can never satisfy any woman but I still have eat. I haven’t had an erection in 8 years or more only my nipples get hard thinking about cock or when sucking cock
Hello Ms Olivia.
i just read today on EE about the importance of spending time on Mistress blogs and leaving comments. So i am making it a regular priority of my submissive service to do so.
((( This description of submissive desires is so fantastic, I’m using a big part of this comment in a blog post … so that’s why it’s not here – look for this post soon! Thank you hands! )))
I have only on a few occasions felt i had reached a level of subspace however and look forward to someday finding myself so deep in a real live session that i would do anything She asked me to do for Her amusement or pleasure.
Until then i am submitting to the Mistress’s of LDW.
Oh hands!
What a wonderful and thorough comment, thank you !
I redacted some and turned it into a whole blog — thank you so much.
You INSPIRED ME …. and I really appreciate it.
Wow!!! i love knowing that it was inspiring. That my submissive desires resonated with the other half of the equation; a Dominant Female. An affirmation that i am on the right path of my submissive journey…
Now if i could only remember what i wrote LOL.
Ms Olivia; i am so happy, for Your connection with Ms Erika. That it has allowed me to meet You through a warm connection, that has expanded my submissive service to another Mistress.
hands.
I’m so glad you are part of my life as well! You are doing such wonderful service to Ms Erika and to me! Being able to send you a request and boom you do it is really fantastic! We appreciate the service and you so much!
Ms Olivia yes Subspace is a state that I strive for on a call. It is an escape from the vanilla world. Under the control of the right Mistress all cares go out the window
That’s such a great way to put it and you’re right about the importance of being under the control of the right Mistress. I’m so glad Ms Erika is your primary Mistress and you both have this special connection. That makes everything exciting, fun, safe, etc.
This was a WILD cum eating session! So. Much. Fun!
Who ate their cum in this conversation? I certainly didn’t eat cum because I didn’t cum .Who came?
However some of the conversations
caused arousal .Being limp and somewhat turned on by Misstress Olivia I did make a spot of thin clitty pre juice which tasted fantastic.
YAY I encourage eating your pre cum in preparation for cum eating … do you eat your own cum when you do?
Yes I ate my cum but it’s something like heavy cream and it’s like a cold congestion like flem on the next day
my pre cum is nice .! When I used to get some pussy before all this happened to me I had a beard and the next day I would have a flavor savor