Have you ever found yourself overwhelmed by your submissive feelings? Do they overtake you at times, even when you’re not necessarily thinking about anything sexy? Well, I’m here to reassure you that that’s perfectly normal. Many submissives find themselves overtaken by their submissive feelings at times. All it means is that you are, in fact, a sub and probably need an outlet for those feelings.
Submissive Feelings Are Perfectly Normal
Your submissive feelings are nothing to worry about. Being submissive doesn’t mean that you’re weak or that you’re somehow a freak. Personally, I think it’s wonderful that you have these feelings. Don’t worry, your desires just mean that you need a Femdom Mistress to help you safely and sanely explore your urges.
I know you’ve probably been thinking about what it would be like to serve an Experienced Mistress like me. Take a look at my phone sex reviews to see what others are saying. I think we would both thoroughly enjoy our time together.
You Need An Environment In Which To Explore
What you need–besides me, of course–is a safe environment in which to explore these submissive feelings of yours. I’ll be happy to provide you with that environment. You need to play, and you need to discover who you are as a sub. I’ll be happy to help you with that as well.
The great thing about being with a Mistress like me is that you don’t need to worry about anything. Leave that to me. You don’t have to think, don’t have to worry, don’t have to do anything but simply obey. I will make the rules and the decisions. You just have to follow them. It’s quite simple, really, and very freeing for someone who usually has to be the decision-maker in their day-to-day lives.
Focusing On Your Submission
Focusing on pleasing your Mistress and on your own submission will make you feel complete, finally. You’ll be able to experience the one thing you’ve been needing your whole life, which is to submit to a Dominant Woman.
When you find yourself getting really deep into your submission, you may find yourself drifting into subspace. Subspace, according to Feeld.co, is “the pleasurable altered headspace that the submissive partner experiences during a BDSM scene.” Some describe subspace as a feeling of floating or flying. It manifests slightly differently in everyone. But all subs will agree, once they have experienced it, that it’s a very nice place to be.
If you find yourself going into subspace when you’re with me, don’t panic. Nothing bad is going to happen to you. You are allowed to just let go and let yourself have this beautiful experience. I will do my best to take you there and let you feel it, at least once. It’s a wonderful state to be in, and I encourage you to just let it happen.
Your submissive feelings are very important to me. If you find that you have them and need to speak with someone about them, I would love to hear from you. It doesn’t matter to me what your kinks and fetishes are. The important thing is that you have someone to talk to about those submissive feelings of yours.
We can talk about the particulars of your kinks and fetishes later. For now, let’s focus on those submissive feelings. Some other time, we can discuss your thoughts on, say, guided masturbation, for instance. Right now, let’s uncover who you are and what it is you’re looking for in a dominant Mistress. All you have to do in order to do that is to simply give me a call!
Your Experienced Mistress,
Ms Olivia
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Ohh my god, this blog could not have come at a better time! I find I’m absolutely going close to subspace of some sort recently. Like, I’ll just be going about my day to day life, and then boom, I’m hit with those very submissive feelings your blog post describes in such excellent detail. This really spoke to me, and I’m grateful that you touched on this. It makes me feel a bit less alone!
Kitty you are NOT alone in your feelings, I promise you that!
I liken the experience of subspace to the feeling of that first orgasm … it’s like oh my oh my oh my I want more of THAT! LOL. Know what I mean? MY version is getting into Domme space so I sure can relate!
Oh my yes, Mistress Olivia! You nailed it!! (No pun intended….ok, we’ll maybe it was. Lol). I would like to say that I too experience this and Kittykitty you are NOT alone! Mistress Olivia is the PERFECT Mistress to take care of you and guide you and allow you to be free to be yourself! I absolutely adore her and trust her implicitly. So I know you and others can as well.
Ahhhhh, I adore you slutpie!
Ms Erika asked a fantastic question and I it would make a great episode for The Weekly Hot Spot.
I just approved her comment so you can see it — but here’s the question so it’s handy: Did you have to “come to terms” with your submissive feelings? She points out that some sexually submissive men need to sort of work through the cultural messages of the submissive partner being the weak one. You know I respect the hell outta you, you are NOT weak in any form …. it’s POWER EXCHANGE and if you had no power there would be nothing to exchange and this would be tedious or boring or pointless. What do you think?
Absolutely!!! Especially with married gf telling me to see her dressed up as a girl! How can I say no or resist her? I can’t!!! As well you dressing turning and keeping me as your lipstick lesbian girlfriend with lipstick kisses on my cheeks.
You are such a pretty submissive girl!
I absolutely get what you mean!! I definitely get that floaty feeling and usually writing erotica or listening to the various audios kinda help me to relax into the feelings, but I think there’s more of a powerful effect at play when exploring alongside a mistress or what have you! Although sometimes the subspace feelings can get kinda powerful, it’s never unpleasant per se.
I also gotta say your point about submission being freeing for the decision-makers in life really resonated with me as well.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful response, and I apologize for my wall of text! You’ve just really got me reflecting and thinking and that’s so amazing. You really have an amazing power to you!
I’ve never thought of someone getting into subspace without a Mistress (or other Dominant) …. now I’m so curious! Tell me more!!
OH OH OH and the “taking a break” from being the decision maker is so powerful – I think that’s a very human reaction and it’s seen all over outside of D/s situations …. for example, have you ever turned off your brain and binge watched something? I often think that’s a similar impetus – you know, being “outside” of the ‘normal.’ Does that make sense?
Beautiful post, my friend! It’s true many males who have submissive feelings, also have to work against their cultural message that deems submissive males as inferior or weak. Not necessarily so! Sure some love the humiliation of “beta play” of being emasculated through your submission but it’s not a given and many submissive males do not have that experience!
I wonder what your fans have to say about their “coming to terms” with their submissive feelings!
WOW Ms Erika! What a great question! That would be a great topic for a future podcast. Not sure what the title would be – but don’t you think that topic would be perfect for our BDSM kink podcast? Maybe wellspanked and slutpie will have some ideas!
I’ve finally admitted to myself how much less endowed I am then 95% of the men in every locker room and Sauna I visit around the world. I used to block thinking about it, but now it’s becoming liberating and a bit of a fetish. I feel some pleasure in being submissive at least in the sense of everyone in the room knows mine is the smallest. Some time ago a man who I had been in the lockers with pointed me out to his girlfriend and I heard him say “he has a small dick” and she started giggling at me. I instantly became hard and had to walk away. I don’t mind this now, because as Ms. O said, it’s not a sign of weakness or weirdness.
Awwwww, that made ME giggle too!
tee hee
It’s not a sign of weakness and, in fact, are you a fan of our BDSM kink podcast, The Weekly Hot Spot? Ms Erika and I talk about small penis humiliation and I always point out that sph is FUN — fun for sure for us but also for the “poor” guy we’re laughing at.
Ms. O,
Since discovering your site, and our e-mails, which I am SO grateful for, I have become a huge fan of your podcast. I have shared it with a few others as well. I haven’t found the episode on SPH, so I’ll look for it tonight when I leave work. I’ve never liked admitting that my cock is small, I still think 4 inches is the new 6! But I’m much more comfortable accepting that my cock is very small when flaccid, and it’s gotten a lot of attention that has always aroused me even if I didn’t want to admit it. As you mentioned earlier in this post, it’s thrilling and exciting for someone in a senior management role who usually displays confidence and conditioned to masculine norms to suddenly feel vulnerable and submissive through SPH. I’ve never discussed my SPH experiences before our exchanges, and it’s new and exciting territory for me. Thank you so much!
May I ask, have you ever considered having fans join your podcast to tell their stories of experiencing SPH? That would be very fascinating, and with your expertise it would be very helpful to listen to you break it down so those of us who experience SPH (voluntarily or not!) can learn more about ourselves.
Hi there!
Thank you so much for the compliments for the BDSM kink podcast that I do with Ms Erika. We have a great time on The Weekly Hot Spot and we appreciate all the wonderful feedback.
We’ll think about your idea and thank you.
Right now, we have a tight schedule but you never know about the future.
Miss O,
Thank you for entertaining my idea, I realize you and Ms. Erika have built an empire of a podcast with the Weekly Hot Spot that must keep you incredibly busy. I have no idea how you find the time to connect with so many of us so consistently and passionately. Yesterday I listened to your episode with Olivia Bentley, and it further reinforced my new respect for what you, Ms. Erika and Ms. Bentley do from a business, educational, and community entrepreneurship perspective that is far more relevant than I previously understood. It prompted me to look up Ms. Bentley and it appears she helps people in a similar way that y’all do.
I am going to keep on listening to the podcast and much respect to all the great work you do.
I’m so glad you listened to the Olivia Bentley podcast episode. I’ve heard from a lot of people that they’re surprised that this IS treated like a business – it’s an admittedly very FUN business and, for us, there sure are aspects of business and entrepreneurial skill sets.
The podcast does take a lot of time – I’m doing scheduling new for some really interesting future guests so stay tuned!
Ms Olivia, Are those your garter belts which you are holding in your hand in the middle picture above? If so, you have them to hand and ready to tie up any male submissive who steps out of line (LOL!).
The middle picture? No – those are the tails on a flogger … but, now that you mention it, it’d be pretty fun to tie you up with a 6 or 8 strap garter belt and then toss you back down in the basement!
Ms Olivia, I get the impression that you enjoyed doing that judo flip on me!! I didn’t know too much about it. It all happened so quickly as you flipped your hips and tossed me down to the basement. I was almost out cold as I reached my destination.
Really? So, you missed the thump thump thump down the stairs?
I excel with that judo flip.
Well, Ms Olivia, in line with the theme of this blog, I can say that after you performed that judo flip on me, I felt very very submissive!!
very submissive?
Are you sure?
You LOOKED like you were very unconscious.
giggles
Well, Ms Olivia, I know from experience that you are capable of knocking a guy out with your charm and good looks or with your martial arts skills!! Either way you’re a real knockout lady!
giggles
Mind and body knockout ….
with a little help from my ……..
KNICKERS !
Say it with me …. laughs
I wouldn’t say submissive feelings overtake me, but definitely feminine feelings do.
xxxxxxx
Yvonne
That’s a really great point!
And we’ve talked about cycles that femme ladies go through — I’m glad you never did the purge cycles (OMG could you imagine????). That’s a sad part of the cycle….:(
Great blog. Yes I would agree, subspace is very special and you also make one feel safe, while enjoying the need for being submissive. It comes so frequently back calling to me and this post make me feel better. Thank you
I’m so glad to hear this Christina Giselle — being submissive is such a primal urge for those that have submissive tendencies. It’s just like me with my Dominant tendencies. I’m really glad to have an outlet for these fun ways to play.