Submissive male in pop culture
I write a lot about power exchange between a submissive male and a Femdom Mistress. I love playing in the “face to face” BDsm and fetish scene.
Distance domination on the phone really expands my experience and creativity. I think of scene play as performance art. It’s a natural progression to consider kink in popular culture.
Physical, intellectual, emotional and visual
What I like about BDsm and kink is this is adult play for smart and thoughtful people. Oh sure, you might just have a submissive fantasy but really there is so much more to think about. Here’s servus again:
“It reminds me a bit (geek alert), of the old style depictions of superheroes – all superpowers and fanfares, without consideration of what being a vigilante does to a person.”
“I’m also fascinated by society’s role in shaping the roles. How our failure to acknowledge (particularly submissive males, but also all of the roles), non vanilla roles impacts on their evolution in individuals.”
Fascinating take on kink in pop culture
Pop culture is part of the zeitgeist. As more kink images make it into pop culture it’s because there is more acceptance of the diversity in needs and desires. There is also more recognization of multiple roles — within a life AND within society in general.
Sex will return right after this detour into the mental aspects of what we do and how this is represented in the world beyond our individual lives.
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I agree about distance domination and how it expands experience and creativity. I often think back on all of the power exchange play I did when I first started in real time, and apply that experience to the play on phone. Boys appreciate experience. We are definitely experienced Mistresses Ms Olivia!
Thanks for your comment Ms Cassandra — I tend to say face to face play rather than “real time” because in my experience — especially with power exchange — the ENERGY is real whether it’s face or face or Distance Domination. And you know what? Even the subs who haven’t experience face to face domination DO appreciate experience — they can tell the difference even if they don’t “know” what the difference is!
Did i just get a hard on from reading a sexy woman use “zeitgeist” in a sentence? Smart is sexy. Strong willed is sexy. Those legs are sexy. Damn, miss You Mistress Olivia. And no matter the era, no matter what is “pop” is in any current time, a smart, strong willed woman will always be sexy. But it is fun to see more everyday hints of kink. Allows me the occasional confession masquerading as a joke, always knowing almost everyone will believe it is a joke, while secretly wishing there will be that One who knows what it really is.
~giggles~ at your hardon from zeitgeist! Now THAT’s a really snazzy use of my education! hahahahahahhahaha you’re the best and I do love that you “get” me.
Hey you talk about making jokes — Oh yeah one who is “in the know” will pick up on that — I know I do and will (when appropriate and I feel like it) begin to … ahem … prob … more.
You’ve made me your submissive soft weak and feminine cream puff girl. After last night with Ms Casey and Ms Fiona. Those 2 mistresses are now part of my on going feminization. Just seeing how I looked in all the lingerie the 3 of you picked out for me to wear along with matching plum bra/panties I do look better this way. And yes the 3 of you are right I want to stay this way no matter what I say. With long black wig/body con sheath dresses/makeup/lipstick kisses on my cheeks and lips/feminine arched eyebrows/soft smelling girlish smooth skin with midnight romance perfume and lotion on me/leggings/yog pants/blouses. With you throwing away all my guy clothes. I’ve no choice but to become all the mistresses cream puff girl I was always meant to be. Mistress always wins!!!!
I don’t know if I would call myself a submissive male, but I know I am your bride and becoming as feminine as I can be.
En femme you are sweet and shy and, yes, submissive — you are such a beautiful, feminine girlfriend and fiancee!
What a thoughtful post! I agree with you. But also the more we see images or references to kink in pop culture the more desensitized society becomes.The brilliant thing (also a curse) to desensitization is that “it” becomes accepted. No longer does the reference trigger a fear response and minds can open to a wider world. Now one might want to debate me on my assertion of ‘fear response’ but it is true, humans (and all animals) fear what they don’t understand.
OMG what a GREAT point Ms Erika — one of the many reasons why I love and adore you. For humiliation to work (name-calling) the names have to have a ZING and part of the zing is the name is humiliating, embarrassing, etc. I wonder what humiliation would look like without that zing of “otherness.”
Not going to lie Ms. O. Had to look up “zeitgeist” Going to wow everyone with that at the next Hooterville munch.
Your tax joke made me laugh! Heaven forbid you ever get audited Ms. O but if you did, lucky IRS dude should pay you to listen to you talk about your business related expenses. 1,300 double A batteries, 400 gallons of yogurt, 11 turkey basters, 3 pogo sticks etc.
Sent you a Mets tote. First place Ms.O!
OMG hahahahahaha yogurt! Actually you should hear some of my deduction conversations with my tax guy:
“I bought a suede, elk skin flogger because it sounds different. Can I deduct that if I use it on a call?
Him: “Sure! How long do you think it will “last” and how much was it?”
Me: “What? Get the fuck outta here? Are you doing depreciation on something like a sex toy or kink play toys?”
gales and gales and gales of laughter!
hey hey hey that Mets tote is AMAZING !!!!!!!!!!!!!! It’s really well made and just the right size for so many things — wink wink nudge nudge.
I have (probably) discovered that I’m not going to be the next Van Gough but I sure am enjoying learning how to draw because it is giving me an even deeper understanding of, and appreciation for, ART — after all, creators don’t exist in a vacuum — they needs FANS and intelligent fans (I imagine) are more fun for the creator!
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