But those sex secrets might not be surprising to you
Listen to me break down the sex research and tell you some of my personal experience.
2 year sex survey of 4,000 people
A human sexuality psychologist and research fellow at the Kinsey Institute just published results of a 2 year survey about DESIRE — especially sexual fantasies for men and women. Some of these answers don’t surprise me. As a Femdom, I know the need and value of Domination phone sex. The FEEL of your submission during my Distance Domination is as real, as sometimes more real, than face to face kink scenes. The study deals with the fantasy — and that facinates me.
I hear a LOT of sexual fantasies
Like the responses to an anonymous survey, the privacy of being on the phone or sexy texting allows people to really share erotic desires. One caller says it like this:
“There is a liberating honesty beneath the presumed anonymity of cyber space. I can be open and honest about my kinks and fetishes (with an online Mistress), whereas openly discussing them IRL would put my life in serious jeopardy.”
What research says about stereotypes
According to this new study, there is a huge overlap between sexual fantasies of men and women. For example, 65% fantasize about having pain inflicted upon them during sex and 60 % fantasize about inflicting pain on someone else.
Intimacy and men
The researcher also said he was surprised by the “emotional content” of the fantasies of many men. I know the truth of that. The stereotype of male sexual desire is that once the orgasm is achieved he’s “done” without much intimacy. In my experience, that is the rare person. Most callers, especially who call me, also want to feel cherished, desired and validated.
Kinky sex and women
I know a LOT of women who are curious about group sex, BDSM, and non-monogamy. I’m so glad that there is finally research that suggests this fantasy is more common than previous research suggests. I’m eternally grateful that I had the courage and sense of adventure to move those fantasy desires into my real life — face to face and on the phone, with you.
Your Experienced Mistress,
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Being able to sound for you on cam and knowing and hearing that it excites you affords me an opportunity not available elsewhere, especially IRL. I only wish I could do it more often (with you I mean)?
I agree! Grrrrr out schedules aren’t matching up all that well. BLEH!
I can certainly relate to the fact that the internet has opened up the lines of communication like never before. I still hesitate on the phone though, it is getting easier to talk about fantasies in real time. Before a call I am chomping at the bit to open up and share my most cherished fantasies but as soon as I am actually talking to a Mistress I start to stammer and hesitate. Certainly better than on my first call but still not as free flowing as I wish it could be.
On the intimacy issue I have always been I guess you could call weird. My biggest turn on when it coms to sex, unlike my male peers is the intimacy (kissing, touching, talking). I have even had women comment that I was more like a girl than a guy. At the time I didn’t take it as a compliment but now I take it as the highest praise!!
You’re not alone in the desire for intimacy — AND you’re also not alone in the whole being shy and/or tonguetied thing — very very common and, in my opinion, charming! 🙂 🙂