So, you want to suck cock.
(Listen to me read you this Experienced Mistress blog post).
I’m not sure why but I’m getting a lot of questions about sexuality and being a “real man” from cock lovers. They want to suck a dick …. or they want to fantasize about taking that man meat. Short answer — being cock curious or being a cocksucker doesn’t mean you’re gay. There are, of course, nuances to any question about sex, erotic pleasure and your individual arousal.
3 types of men who want to suck cock
This list is not complete. There are way too many variations for a blog post. Answering this question with your personal circumstances in mind is best done in a conversation. Here are some general (VERY GENERAL) categories.
You like erotic humiliation
The best description of sexual humiliation likens it as a very adult thrill ride — not for everyone but wicked ass fun for everyone who enjoys this. The bonus boner can be added to the naughty things that a humiliation slut is made to do for Mistress. There is someone else who wants to hear Mistress say, “YES! You’re a faggot – suck it bitch.” (Note, I don’t use derogatory words except in humiliation scenes — just like I don’t spank random strangers — the words are one of many fetish tools).
You are submissive
You might or might not want to suck cock but you will do it when Mistress tells you to get on your knees, open your lips and suck that cock. This isn’t necessarily an expression of being cock curious — it is the activity that represents the power exchange between a Femdom and a submissive.
You ARE exploring your sexuality
Some of you either know or suspect you are bi or gay. You might need a safe place to share your fantasies, ask questions, get advice, or simply have a non-judgmental listener to help you explore who you are.
There are other types of cock suckers — notably crossdressers, trans girls and sissies. I’ll do another blog post for the girly girls if you leave comments that spark my interest.
Until we have a conversation, know that whatever your reason for the fantasy, curiosity or actions — I want to hear from you!
Your Experienced Mistress,
Ms Olivia
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Thank You Mistress for your thoughtful comments.
My pleasure emily 🙂
Great piece. I think any male exploring the idea of sucking cock definitely falls into one of these three categories. Though I do think the last one is likely that strongest possibility. Exploring a person’s sexuality involves so many different concepts including submission and humiliation angles. And yes, a real man can suck Cock……they just wouldn’t be straight. ?
Delightful !!! Thank you so much stephanie … so let me ask you something … if a cis man sucks a cock and the cock is sort of disembodied from the man, do you think the cock sucker might be something other than gay or bi? I’m not sure if I’m explaining that well. I know a lot of cis men who are aroused by the cock but not the fact that it’s attached to a man. When I think of bisexual or gay there’s the sense that it is a male who is the erotic partner. Does that make sense?
That’s a great question Mistress Olivia and you could argue either way. I mean I don’t think a man sucking a woman’s strap on was bi or gay. But on the other hand the opposite Sex from a male doesn’t have a cock naturally. So I’m really not sure.
I’m a believer in labels helping us define who we are to help us be more confident. The problem is that society sees certain labels as being wrong when there is nothing wrong with being bi or gay. Wish people would just say fuck it and enjoy themselves no matter what label they fall under.
I totally agree with you ! Not sure who said it but someone said normal is only a setting on a washing machine!
Very good reading material I definately fit the first 2 , mainly 1st but who knows in 10 years a Mistress may turn me into the 3rd!
giggles ….. mmmmmmm, Mistress can do so many things to you! ~grins~
Totally agree with Mike Little. My on again off again GF started with a strap on because I’m submissive & she wanted it. Then she coerced me into a guy on guy thing while she watched. Long story short I went from never being interested in sucking cock or receiving anal from a guy to really enjoying it. I think the turning point was after I actually came while being fucked in front of her. She really enjoyed the fact that I could no longer deny the fact that I enjoyed it as well….as if my constant erection was not proof enough LOL. It is hard to accept evolving likes on this scale but I’m constantly worried about my current situation as to what turns me on. I both love & hate my GF for what she’s done to me.
grins …. honestly, I think that your change is supposed to be for the best … I would thoroughly agree with her.
I love this post Ms Olivia! The general breakdown of three types of cocksuckers is a great start for the man attempting to define his desire. Some can’t just embrace the ole “if it feels good, do it” attitude. The must access and analyze and it is helpful for them to have some idea before exploring it further with a Mistress.
EXACTLY Ms Rayne … I think it’s part of the human condition to put labels on things … but isn’t that whole “messy” blurring of lines part of the thrill of exploration? I’m not a fan of absolute labels … but, you’re right, sometimes these can be a comforting starting point.
The allure, the excitement , the need of the cock –
On one’s knees, vulnerable, needing wanting –
All the while – SHE watches, smiles, encourages – dripping with desire – SHE drives the need for her hubby to lick, suck, engulf the cock SHE brought home – not for HERSELF, but for HER needy hubby.
YES his thick, creamy load is yours to devour MY slut.
Mmmmmmmmm ….. nicely said nikki … and look! You said all that and then licked your lips without smudging your lipstick!
~grins~
There is a reason that i have learned as my feminization has moved along, as i understand myself as the sissy i truly am. . The sight of a hard cock on a good looking man takes my breath away. Is there anything more beautiful? More enticing? Oh my god i want to be on my knees and taking it into my hands and into my mouth. To kiss him. to taste him, to feel him, to be open to him. To first explore gently and then more fully. i know that i want to feel his excitement grow to both make it last and to bring him to conclusion. I want him to cum, i want him to cum in my mouth. And want to to feel him soften in my mouth as i enjoy each drop of cum that i can.. And yes, it is best if i am properly dressed ain my sissy best.
Ohhhhhhhhh this is absolutely a fantastic comment Susan … you ARE a sissy … I remember you when cum eating was a quest, not even a reality. You have been on a sissy journey!
I guess I am late to the party. What a sensational community here!
You’re not late to the party — the party is glad you found us! ~grins~
I am 100% Hetero when it comes to being attracted to women. I’ve never seen a man in public and thought: ‘what a hottie,’ However, when a nice cock is in front of me, I get super hard and just can’t resist sucking it to completion. Does this make me gay? I don’t know. Maybe it’s a cock fetish? All I know is I cant suck enough cocks. Just ask any guy who frequents the adult book store 5 miles from my house:-) They fight over me. Nothing more exciting than swallowing a load from a nice cock in a glory hole. However, the though of a man fucking my ass or kissing me, repulses me. Many have tried, but a slut has to have her limits!
I WANT you sucking lots and lots and lots of cocks. 🙂 🙂
I think if you suck cock and do not have a pussy, then you are a faggot and not a real man. I don’t see myself as a real man because of my increasing attraction to cocks. As much as I would like to be a Girl, my clitty is on the outside. To me, when I suck my dildos, I feel like a faggot. the fact that I get off on doing this and being laughed at by a Mistress proves this to me.
laughs and laughs …. and tammy you LIKE it when Mistress points out your faggoty faggot-ness, don’t you? That’s right cupcake, cream those sissy panties!
You are beautiful and I would suck cock for you anytime!
Why thank you Emily — what a sweet (and naughty) sissy!
Hi Olivia, im not sure which category I am in but I do love to wear bright red lipstick and suck a hard cock. I have done quite a bit of it, but not every guy wants red lipstick on his cock. There are also guys who want me to dress fully and this has been so much fun for me because the guys who want this want more than just a bj and thats fine with me.
LOL that’s why that shade is called cocksucker RED lipstick! 🙂 🙂 Mmmmmmmm I’m thinking of those guys who want more than a blow job from you!
You really understand so much of human sexuality.. Thank YOU
I’m not a sex therapist but I read, learn and think — and I sure do have a wealth of experience! Thank you for your compliment!