… and some people worry about fetish desires
I’m here to tell you that you are not alone as you can hear in this audio about the diversity of sexual desire. I’ve been sexually adventurous my whole life and doing phone sex, I’ve talked with thousands of people about erotic desires. I am an expert on sex secrets.
My advice is simple: as long as your kink doesn’t significantly interfere with you daily life, isn’t illegal and doesn’t harm others — enjoy yourself, this is just part of who you!
There are others who have your fetish
I’ve learned a lot about various kinks and the variety of ways to experience erotic pleasure. For example, I never knew about a tickle fetish and OMG this is one of the most fun things ever! Here’s the comment that inspired this blog post: “I used to think my tickle fetish was little weird at first because it wasn’t part of the norm. But I just grew to accept it.”
Find a community of kinky people
When you find a group of people that openly talk about kinks and turn ons you automatically don’t feel like a freak (in a bad way). Check out our adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire, Here’s what that same delightful kinkster says,
“I guess what I love about kinks in general is that everyone is so unique. Such an amazing selection of different things to try. Everyone has their favourites, there are some we want to discover. Some fetishes are not to everyone’s taste but it’s wonderful that there is something for everyone.”
Don’t stay alone!
Join us in Enchantrix Empire — reach out to a Mistress — send me an email ( olivia AT enchantrixempire.com ) — the connection and acceptance are as much fun as the orgasm with someone who fully enjoys YOU!
Your Experienced Mistress,
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My fetish is cross dressing-I’ve been doing this over 20 years and it’s to difficult to resist and say no to. The only ones who know are my masseuse/her 2 girlfriends and they said it’s no big deal as one of her cousins does drag shows. Just being shy/ in the closet all theses years made it hard to meet women but now at my age I’ve cone out of closet and glad I have. It’s not about sex as what I want is to have women dress me as one and keep me this way with wesr bras/panties underneath my clothes to remind me who I am and become and who’s in charge. Theres much more worse things I could be doing and I would think women would want to do this to me on regular basis but for some reason it’s turnoff to them. For me it’s their loss!! I’m going to keep doing this forever as it’s great to get in touch with my feminine side and see how I look dressed as a girl which I real do look better this way then I do as a guy.
I know, Ms Olivia, that you think my fetish isn’t weird! But I can relate to this post so strongly. Acceptance of oneself is so important and yet it can be so hard to come by. I’ve certainly struggled with it my whole adult life and, though I’ve made some progress, I do sometimes wonder if I will ever be able to embrace all of who I am. But it’s a very worthwhile goal 🙂
I suspect that struggling with the things we don’t feel we can talk about is part of being human. Have you read any Brene Brown? She’s a researcher who studies shame, guilt, creativity, connection, etc. Check out her TED talk — her work is fascinating and I suspect you might also find it interesting and valuable. I’m showering you with lipstick kisses my friend 🙂
Wow, such a good recommendation! I watched her TED talk and it was fascinating – I’m going to have to seek out some of her writing now. Thank you! I do find the psychology fascinating and the paucity of research into cross-dressing (and associated fetishes) bugs me. But I do like to understand things, whether it’s why I have the urge to wear a pretty dress or how the emissions system on my car works 😉 It’s just the way my brain is wired up I guess. A thinker (a bit like you?)…
We ARE both thinkers — she has a lot of books — which one(s) did you get/read?
Your website is amazing.
You are so knowledgeable and supportive..
Thanks !!!! I’m a natural born geek/nerd … and I like answering questions … I have had many of these issues and questions during my own kink and fetish journey.
Ms. Olivia, this is such a supportive and insightful post. Your advice to find a community of like-fetished people in order to feel less alone. Not to mention keeping close to a Mistress like you is the best way to deal with feeling a little out of place. Your callers are LUCKY to have you!
You’re too kind Ms Piper — you know me, I’m a thinker as well as a freaker! ~laughs and flips up my skirt as I dash outta the room~ 🙂 🙂
I guess it’s being weird being a small cocked black guy whose wife is enjoying herself with a large cocker white guy
LOL — I do think there are (perhaps) fewer cuckolds who are black — and the bull is a large cock white guy — BUT I think it’s HOT in part because it’s unusual 🙂 🙂
This is an interesting post, thank you. I have to say I don’t always understand where fetish and reality merge. —-((note from Ms Olivia — this is such a wonderful, thoughtful comment — I’m turning it into a blog post!)))
I LOVE this comment so much — you move the conversation forward in a really thoughtful and interesting way. I’m turning this into a blog post — so look for that in a future post!