Do YOU have wicked thoughts?
I’m asking because Ms Andi and I are reading the book, A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogas and Gaddam. I picked up the book in NYC at the Museum of Sex and read it on the train back home. It’s fascinating! The authors are neuroscientists who examined the web as a way to see secret human sexual behavior. It’s ingenious really.
Princess Andi is Sexy AND Smart
Ms Andi is one of My favorite people! She’s flirty, fun, sexy and WICKED! ~laughs~ One of My favorite Ms Andi stories is about how creative she is. If you’re a fan of the tiny man tormented by Giant Women (and even if you’re not a Giantess fan) you can’t help but laugh at this hysterical tiny man torment erotic audio. Would THIS sort of fantasy qualify for the wicked thoughts? I think so! THIS is part of what the researchers are looking for when they looked for patterns of human arousal on the web.
Wicked Thoughts poll on Enchantrix Empire.
I did a poll about this on our adult social networking site, Enchantrix Empire. As many of you know, I use polls to get the conversation going and the real action happens in the comments to the poll. Andy had this to say:
The idea of using the interwebs to research human sexuality is inspired- porn is part of the basic foundation of the interwebs.
There could be selection effects: Vanilla sex & porn is available everywhere (with some effort/cost). People will often turn to the interweb for the niche stuff, like telekinetic futa dommes, which don’t pop up in the general culture all that often.
OTOH, there is a liberating honesty beneath the presumed anonymity of cyber space. I can be open and honest about my kinks and fetishes on sites like EE and FetLife, whereas openly discussing them IRL would put my life in serious jeopardy.
Sissyschool is in the book!
On a personal note, it was such a surprise (and a good one) to be reading along and find our own sissy school in the text! ~smiles~ WOW, small world, right?
How wicked are your thoughts?
Ms Andi and I are reading the book and you will find us talking about this in various places. On our blogs, twitter and EE. You can join the conversation in any way you like with or without reading the book. You’re already on My blog so just post comments here. My twitter is MistressOlivia1. Ms Andi is EmpressAndi on Twitter. Join in and answer this question first: How wicked are YOUR thoughts? ~grinz~
Ms Olivia
Can I get away with simply saying I’ve become every increasingly and progressively p’voyted ?? 🙂
You can get away with most anything Kindle….~laughs~….but I can’t figure out what you mean there! If you want Me to understand, then you’ll need to give just a little MORE. ~giggles~
Dear Mitress Olivia,one thing I admire about you is your intelligence .there are many things I admire about you.Empress Christine has great intelligence and she has good friends who has have great intelligence.Thankyou for your love and support.I think what the book you are reading is doing is called cultural anthropology.Margret Mead kinda of stuff.I will find the book and read the book.One day at a time we will get where we are going.sincerly yours sissy
slave ted…you have a great mind and a wonderful curiousity.The American Diabetes ride was great…Thankyou for sharing your wisdom.i think that is one of the roles of a mistress is to
teach her slaves.you are a great teacher.Empress Chritine is a great teacher.A great book I
read in anthropology class high school.the natural Superiority of women by ? konrad Lorenz or
by Ashley Montague,it is by either of these two people.sincerly yours sissy slave ted
Thanks for your comment sissy slave ted! 🙂
Olivia, does this count as wicked thoughts?
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She was a checker at the local supermarket. We flirted back and forth but she always found a way to mention her boyfriend, making it clear to me that she was not on the market.
One day while going through the line, I was buying hot pink nail polish. She scanned it and said `You never told me you had a girlfriend.’
The way I blushed gave me away. She instantly knew I was buying it for myself.
A week later I bumped into her at the local natural history museum, and she couldn’t help herself, she asked me if I cross dressed. I told her that the answer might shock her, did she really want to know? That seemed to make her even more curious, I could see her eyes lighting on fire. I told her other than panties, I did not usually cross dress, but that I sometimes liked to play the role of a submissive sissy maid in phonesex calls.
The grin on her face started to grow, and she asked me if I had ever done it in real life. I told her no, I hadn’t, but some day I would. She asked me if tomorrow morning would make a good someday.
I showed up at her house in a cute maid outfit. The outfit wasn’t really practical for cleaning but it was all I had. Cute pink ruffled panties barely hidden by the real short black ruffled skirt. She had me start by cleaning her kitchen floor, but I couldn’t use a mop. She wanted me down on my hands and knees scrubbing, which I knew was exposing my ass to her. I tried not to think if the panties were properly keeping my junk in, I had a suspicion she was getting quite the show with me bent over like that.
Around noon time, her boyfriend came home from work and when he saw me, he seemed quite upset. He told her he really wasn’t comfortable with having me in the house, it was obvious I was attracted to her and he didn’t like that, he wanted me to leave.
I didn’t know what to do, but the thrill of being under her command was too much for me to give up without a fight, I had to do something and I had to do it fast.
“Please,” I begged, “Let me prove to you that I’m not a threat.”
He looked at me and said “How the hell are you going to do that?”
I choked. I could not believe the words that were about to come out of my mouth, I was having trouble saying them, but I had to do it.
“I’ll suck your dick. If I can get you to cum, you let me stay. If not, I’ll leave.”
He looked a little grossed out. “I’m not gay.” he protested.
“Neither am I,” I replied, “This isn’t about erotic pleasure. I suck your dick, I prove to you I know my place, you are the man of the house. If you girlfriend knows I willingly sucked your dick, do you think she’d even consider me?”
I saw him ponder it, he looked over at his girlfriend. I don’t know what he saw, I felt it would be wrong for me to look at her, but I think he was looking for approval from her, approval he got, for the next thing he did was unzip his pants.
I had to make him come. Why I had offered that as part of the deal I don’t know, but it just happened. I didn’t like the idea, but I did offer and it was the only way I could get my jollies being her sissy maid. Maybe I was crossing a line by doing this, I don’t know, but the only way I knew to bring myself to suck his dick in such a way to make him cum was to project. I projected myself has him and me as his girlfriend. I sucked his dick the way I would want her to suck my dick.
He seemed to have a little trouble getting hard at first, but when I started playing with his head with my tongue, he got harder and harder and harder and finally he grabbed the back of my had and rammed his cock all the way to the back of my throat, making me gag. As I gagged he exploded, filling my mouth with his warm milky cum.
After that experience, I crumpled to the floor, I was emotionally drained and I felt physically drained. At least I knew the floor was clean.
“You want to clean the house for her, well, I have no objection.”
He left and went back to work, and his girlfriend called me over.
“I’m disappointed in you,” she said.
I didn’t know what to do, I didn’t know what had bothered her. “I’m sorry,” I said, “What did I do wrong?”
“Two things,” she replied. “First, you sucked his cock without consulting me. I loved it, don’t get me wrong, but you don’t ever do anything without consulting me.”
She was right, but I had to think fast on my feet, he was about to kick me out.
“And the other thing,” she continued, “I never let him make me gag when I give him head. He’s gonna want that now, so your are going to have to be the one to give it to him. Understand?”
Fuck me. I didn’t want to enter into a long term cock sucking arrangement. I just wanted to be allowed to clean her house for her. I guess that was selfish of me though, if I was really going to be her sissy maid, it couldn’t just be about my lustful desires.
“Yes Mistress,” I replied, “I understand.”
She then reached her underneath her skirt, and I watched her panties drop to the floor.
“You showed him you understand your place,” she stated as she pointed to the floor in front of her and grinned, “Now it’s time you show me you understand her place.”
Oh fuck yes THIS is a dandy wicked thought Alice! ~grinz~
I love that line: “She ask me if tomorrow morning would make a good someday.”
~grinz~
Your erotic fiction writing is smart, sweet and VERY GOOD! And…..ohhhhhhh yes, very sexy …… let Me count the number of wicked thoughts!
And I love it when you blush!
Ok Ok, just a liiiittle.
In case it wasn’t obvious, I DO mean *perverted.* Starting with certain fantasies and fetishes that have progressed over time until I became the preeeevert I am today 😉
So how wicked are MY thoughts??
Well that’s about all I can say right until you get me drunk,
Or horny — whichever comes first 🙂
~giggles~ Ohhhhhhhh now THAT is what I adore about you Kindle!
Lamborghini vs Honda Civic.
WTF Ms. O.
Could I have not made it any clearer?
Oh THIS comment I understood! The “didn’t” understand was for another comment!
Yours in Lamborghini-ness, Ms O
~laughs~
Don’t kid yourself Ms. O. You understand all. That’s why your blog is so great. Your femdommey brain is of Einsteinian proportions.
I was just referring to Honda Civic dude. He can’t stop talking about his car. On your blog.
~giggles~ My femdommey brain is whirling….simply whirling! And, you DO make Me laugh!
Well lets see..trampling, paddling, spanking, Mistress, Mistress boss, Mistress next door, Mistresses, foot fetish, leg fetish, high heel fetish, stocking or pantyhose fetish, Light CBT, HOT WAX, ball weights, blue balls, Tease and Denial, cock control, chastity, strapon play, two Mistress strapon play, dress up, Mistress Olivia pet, Mistress Constance pet, Mistress Violet pet, Community pet, ass licking, pussy licking, face sitting, smothering, bondage, saddle play, cbt exercises, masturbation, Mistress masturbation, Giantness, shrinking, tricked anal play, ((seduced)) shemale prostitution…..i think i may have a Few wicked thoughts….
~giggles~ Well well well My pet bumkin! Since you’ve done such a wonderful and exciting list….here’s your audio!
https://eroticaudios.com/content/Olivia/OliviaWickedThoughts1.mp3
Thank you for …. ahem … inspiring Me! ~grinz~
Oh Mistress Olivia You so much fill my dreams doing All these wicked thought to me!! I’m playing your audio over and over. Thank You sooo much!!
~grinz~ Thank you so much bumkin! I’m thrilled to inspire Wicked Thoughts….~grinz~
Had a few more wicked thoughts…Ruined orgasms, post orgasm torture, CFNM, latex, Queening, guided masturbation, cum shots, no touch orgasms, Naughty nurses, Jerk off vixens, foot jobs, hand jobs, lube, ball separation, nipple torture, flogging, seduced orgasms, plastic wrap….
~giggles~ So MANY wicked thoughts…..now, there’s a submissive after My own heart! ~grinz~
Nope, no wicked thoughts here. Only good clean wholesome thoughts. Wait, who is defining “wicked”? 😉
~laughs~ I’ll sure own up to having wicked thoughts! ~smiles~
This is a great book Olivia and I am so happy you and Andi are doing this. I am enjoying the tweeting but this is a great way to express more detailed thoughts. I love the extensive research in this book, and learning that we are all secretly a heck of a lot more kinky than we would ever admit! She-males are a popular search and big cocks are a more popular search than big tits for men. You mistresses aren’t surprised because you see and hear so much, but for someone like me who is just opening up to this world and learning and exploring, it is revealing, fascinating and exciting. Makes me wonder what other guy in the office is wearing panties, or what woman next to me is dripping wet thinking of drilling a man with her strap-on or at getting her own ass spanked a bright red.
And this is all just after the first two chapters! I will write more after I have read more. I have been lucky to have many conversations with my incredible Princess Andi about these issues, but the chance to expand and share thoughts with others thro this book is very meaningful for me. Thank you for the forums and for engaging. I look forward to more on the book. Bfla/Writerboy.
YAY! I’m so glad that you are also realizing that there’s a public “face” that people wear and then their private secret fantasies, needs, desires, personas….etc. Now, I’m not saying that ALL transparency is automatically good….I think there are appropriate times and places for most things. What works best for any relationship is defined by the people involved in the relationship. By relationship I really DO mean ANY … romantic, business, casual, etc. This is a really wonderful book for some vanilla couples to begin to have some intimate and REAL conversations about sex and human desire. Doing phone sex I’ve gotten pretty good at asking question in a gentle but clear way to find out things….and, of course, callers have an incentive to actually say what they want/need. Still, it’s satisfying for Me too to know that we are not alone in these Wicked Thoughts….no matter what people say in public! ~smiles~
How wicked are YOUR thoughts?
I’m going to go with “Not very.”
I thought it was so cool that Alice wrote that story. It was great. Good job Alice! So I tried writing a story to email you because I enjoy buying the LDW custom audios. Here’s what I came up with:
Some Greek dude giving you a bath.
That’s it. Yeah I know. Not exactly Pulitzer Prize winning BDSM literature.
So then I added some zombies and cameo appearances from Brad Pitt and Charlize Theron.
Didn’t help.
But at least you’re clean Ms. O. Really, really clean.
And at the risk of being labeled a mindless sycophant puppet, you can make anything sound amazingly hot.
hahahhahahahhahahahhahahahahhahahhahahhahahh
OMG……did I tell you that I just love your comments?
At least you’re clean, Ms O, really, really clean…..STILL has Me laughing!
And, might I just say THIS……your story was OMG off the charts hot! My body was clean but My mind sure isn’t!
THANK YOU so much!
I was certainly having wicked thought today in a meeting, high heels and black stockings and a pencil skirt on my Director, i so want to worship her pussy from under her desk and then take me in my man pussy bent over her desk.
My cage has just got very tight thinking about it.
~grinz~ Ohhhhhhhh YOU having wicked thoughts? ~grinz~ I’m shocked, shocked to hear that! Oh MY and you’re calling it a man pussy now…..do TELL me all about that! Are you starting to get into dressing!
Great response Olivia. Thank you. I agree transparency has its place and time. I mean as much fun as spanking and panties are, we all have to get some work done….
I love Chapters 3-5. The description of men as Elmer Fudd, Wabbit Hunter, versus Miss Marple’s Detective Agency was funny and inciteful at the same time. I loved the numbers and history behind the description. Really interesting to see our anecdotal experiences supported by extensive research and learn the reasons for much of the differing behavior of the sexes.
You’re RIGHT Bfla! I loved that too….it’s like reading the WHY and the science of something that I (and you) intuitively sense but didn’t really think about. Or at least I didn’t think THIS much about it! ~laughs~ Like many really great science writers, there’s a “playfulness” to the writing that makes it accessible to a non-scientist like Me. PLUS…..omg, who doesn’t want to know more about Wicked Thoughts! ~grinz~ Thanks so much for your comment here and joining in on the Twitter conversations about A Billion Wicked Thoughts. Ohhhhhh…..just had another Wicked Thought…..gotta go now…..~grinz~
Hi,I actually think of myself as a timid vanilla person, but that’s a delusion of mine. I’m a lifestyle crossdresser. Also You probably remember some little adventures I’ve had but I should not have mentioned them in EE.
I’ve had giantess fantasies before, but I haven’t thought of them for some time.
I’m fond of anal and cocksucking even though I like women better men. Go figger! 🙂
xoxoxo,
Jenni
~laughs~ Thanks for your comment Jenni….I loved the go figger at the end and you made Me giggle!
No Miss Oliva not really got into dreasing, think having made more of commitment to being a chaste cuckold i only wear panties, sure i must have picked up the man pussy phrase from one of the naughty LDW Mistresses.
Of course i get most of sexual pleasure from anal play..Mistress Ryan says I should only cum from being fucked in my man pussy, never actually cum that way, you do get me to cum in my device remember. That was hot.
In session once after a long period of deep throuting a strap on , being fucked and a lot of cbt was shot my load when my dicklette was tapped fairly gentaly with a riding crop.
Of course perving at your director is naughty but hey doesn’t make you a bad person…lol
~grinz~ Well you certainly can pick up for naughty phrases from the naughty LDW Mistress playmates! ~grinz~ Oh and YES I remember getting to so hot you actually had an orgasm while in a chastity device! That was SUPER HOT! I’m glad you’re well and posting comments! Thanks and have a great weekend 🙂
Ms. Olivia, I just adore you!!! I am so excited to be doing this with you. This book is fascinating and we have much to discuss. I am looking forward to catching up with you and all the others that are joining in on the discussion…
This is going to be one hot summer!
This is in response to some of the comments I have read:
I for one am all about letting your freak flag fly high and proud… I understand many people are unable to do that and my heart goes out to them, that is one of the reasons I love Enchantrix Empire. Ms. Olivia, the other LDW Mistresses and I get to help you let it fly for a little while at least…
Embrace your kink~
~grinz~ at your comment Ms Andi about the long hot summer! Oh YEAH baby! And, it’s sure to be full of Wicked Thoughts! Like you, I love to fly that freak flag high and proud when in an appropriate situation….then, I’ll strut my stuff and fully enjoy that part of me! Other times, it’s much better to be just the sexy girl next door! Here I get to embrace my kink …. just like all of us! *licks lips* ahhhhh, and sometimes even do MORE than just embrace that kink…~grinz~
Andi and Olivia, you both in your own way are helping me to embrace my kinks. Thank you.
“… women only being attracted to “alpha” males who are dominant bad boys who can be rough and tough and mean with everyone else, …”
This is an excerpt of a blog post on Ms Andi’s blog and I’ll answer it there since it’s not directed at Me. But, I loved the comment and, of course, I have thoughts! ~grinz~
Here’s the blog post by Ms Andi …. scroll down and you’ll find the whole body of this comment and My response!
https://www.phonesexprincessblog.com/billion-wicked-teases/
Thanks for writing Bfla!
Hi Bfla, I noticed that this is the same comment as the one on Ms Andi’s blog. AND, why not? It’s a very thoughtful and interesting comment! Thank you so much for pasting it here as well….I’m away this weekend and I’ll answer on Ms Andi’s blog the first of the week!
Hope you’re having a great weekend!
For other blog readers, here’s the link to Ms Andi’s blog and that’s where I’ll post My comment:
https://www.phonesexprincessblog.com/billion-wicked-teases/
Yes it is the same comment. Since you are both doing this, I wanted to share the thought on both your blogs. I wanted to make sure you both saw it and am very interested in both your perspectives; also you have different readers I am sure. Is it ok if I post on both or would you prefer just one at a time? Thank you for answering either way.
Thanks for explaining that Bfla! I will always see comments on My blog! Here’s what I do, I read & respond & approve your comment all at the same time just to make sure that I don’t miss a comment with an automatic approval. This keeps it all organized for Me (which is best LOL). When I see a comment that is something that is copied and pasted from elsewhere I only answer the comment one time and will do an excerpt like I did with yours. Yes I do have different readers, but there are many that subscribe to several blogs (or all of them) so I like to keep the posting on the original site and then I’ll link to that.
Here’s what I would love from you. I understand that you want the same thought answered on both blogs. Just make your comment on My blog similar (but different) and you’ll see thoughts on BOTH blogs! ~smiles~ Oh and feel free to write in your blog comment that you’ve left a similar (but different) comment on Ms Andi’s blog so I’ll know to also go there and give another thought 🙂
Does that help?
~smiles~
PS — I did mean for the comment to be directed at both of you.
Yep! See the other comment I wrote about how to do this so you’ll find lots of comments back to you 🙂
~smiles~
Thank you for the explanation and feedback.. And of course I will do exactly what you ask re leaving different but similar comments on both blogs. And thank you for the prompt responses. I have been reading more and will write more thoughts soon.
You’re more than welcome Bfla! 🙂 I love answering blog comments and you’ll get thoughtful (often quite long) answers when it’s appropriate and catches My interest/attention. In fact, I’m really grooving on answering this comment because you’ve got Me thinking (which I enjoy).
I’m going to start the response here and then continue it over on Ms Andi’s blog. Here is just the first paragraph because I’m writing this in between calls 🙂 But, since you’ve left another comment, thought I’d let you know that your response is being worked on 🙂
You bring up a great point Bfla, things are always more nuanced than any sort of scientific study can ever accurately portray. It’s sort of like the aggregate versus the anecdotal evidence. BOTH are valid and both have levels of inaccuracies. Kind of like the funny quote, “There are lies, damn lies and statistics!”
Look for the rest of My comment about this on Ms Andi’s blog — here’s the link to the exact post:
https://www.phonesexprincessblog.com/billion-wicked-teases/
Dear Mistress Olivia:
Tis true the interweb is a great place to find all kinds of information on just about any subject, especially kinky ones. As You have taught me, it is also a great place to find things to support our naughty cravings. i miss going on-line shopping with You and Ms. Delia for things to support most of my kinks i.e.: whip and tickles; ugly sticks; garter belts and sexy stockings with silky lace tops; 42Cs; to name a few. i have also found it a great place to spark ideas for naughty creations, i.e.: Rope chest and body harnesses; engraved paddles; fucking machines; and many instructions for rope and leather floggers. i also thank the interweb for allowing me to find Enchantrix and You. i confess though the bottom line of this post is that even though i can find much information on kinky and naughty subjects by myself, the ones i like most are the sites and links i get to share with others who i know will appreciate them as well, like the dual flogger demonstration and Amber Rayne doing the guy in rope bondage. Last but not least though, thank You for using this medium to allow me to share with so many others.
Awwww, thank you so much kneel! I laughed reading this because I’ve been there with you every step of the way and fondly remember our mutual explorations of things like the fucking machine! ~smiles~ I love talking about all sorts of wicked subjects….from the psychology of kink to how to build/create homemade kinky sex toys! I’m so glad to see you posting in the comments….THANK YOU!
Wow, Olivia. Thank you so much for the comprehensive response both here and on Andi’s blog. It is a true delight to trade thoughts with you! You are a really good writer and so insightful. Everything you said makes complete sense to me, and I think we were both saying the same thing. I was very glad to get your thoughts, and Andi’s, who also had a great comment and had very similar thoughts in her own way about anecdotal evidence (in her case very personal) versus the aggregate. i guess that’s the big difference. I’m sure the “science” here is an accurate recitation of what these two found in their research on the internet. But as we all are saying internet research and preliminary visual cues can fall away when the decisions become more serious and long-term. And there we all have different visual and psychological cues.
There was a great quote in Chapter 8 from one woman: “George Clooney and Sean Connery are sex symbols, but Bill Gates (younger, richer, and more powerful than either of them) is not. Our chances are abysmal for marrying any of the above men. That being the case, of course we’re going to fantasize about the good-looking ones, because all we’re thinking about is sex. If we were contemplating who to marry and had a choice from among them, that would change things considerably.” That sums it up for a lot of people, I think.
I found Chapter 7 about gay men’s visual and psychological cues fascinating. It was really interesting that their visual cues and what I will call internet interests followed very closely those of heterosexual men. Take that all of you who think there is such a big difference between us. I thought the discussion of brain development and visual cues of straight and gay men was spellbinding also. This was a very educational chapter for me. I’m going to write a little more on this topic on Andi’s blog, as well as leave similar thoughts on the first subject.
Thanks again for the really engaging and educational discussion.
Thanks for your comment Bfla! I thought the visual cues part was fascinating as well….although if you think about it, there are a self limiting number of “traditional” visual cues. I can understand butts for both straight as gay men, for example. It makes sense, doesn’t it?
There’s always the disconnect between a sex only relationship and something that is also ‘outside of the bedroom’ …. I think that’s sort of like choosing a vacation spot. I certainly loved the experience of the climb to Mt. Everest Base Camp, but I wouldn’t want to live in Nepal for years and years. See what I mean?
What are you reading now?
Olivia, thank you so much for your great response here and on Andi’s blog. I really enjoy trading thoughts with you about this book! I enjoy your insight as well as Andi’s.
But it pained me to read the paragraph about the gay men who had several of his straight friends express interest in having a gay experience with him, then get so emotional and upset when they did experiment. Yet it was all fun for him. I can relate to those heterosexual men in that I have felt strong emotions, and some embarrassment over some of the fantasies and fetishes that interest me. I guess what I am learning is that a lot of straight men have cock curiosity or fantasies, then struggle with guilt over it. I am sure you see that a lot more than I do. But it was interesting and painful to read at the same time.
Thanks again for the interesting exchanges. Bfla
Oh yes Bfla! Actually sexual fantasies are just that….fantasies. Some people want to take the fantasy into real life and some don’t. Even if something like cock curiosity or cock fantasies does become an actual experience with a real cock, that doesn’t mean you’re gay. And, even if some DOES find they’re gay then what of it? My experience is that all of human sexuality tends to be on a continuum and can (or will) change over time, circumstances and other factors. Guilt is not really a productive emotion in these sorts of situations….but I certainly do understand the struggle.
Hi Olivia. Now I am reading JK Rowling’s first “adult” book, The Casual Vacancy. It’s a rare foray into fiction for me, but Rowling is such an incredible writer I wanted to check it out. The book has gotten mixed reviews. I am about halfway through, and I like it. Rowling is fabulous at character development and putting the reader into their lives. And her writing remains amazing. The best part is she does it with simple phrases and words. If you’re looking for Harry Potter go elsewhere, but it’s a good book.
I finished A Billion Wicked Thoughts and am really glad I read it. It was so educational to learn the myriad of interests, kinks, fetishes, and reactions of people to sex. So complicated sometimes. I loved the description of power exchange motivating people into BDSM. As we who participate in LDW and EE know, that is so much of what this is all about. Yet those in the “outside world” don’t, and I enjoyed reading people’s explanations of the voluntary power exchange that goes on. Some of the descriptions of who is “really” in charge (i.e., the bottoms in gay relationships) were also interesting, and reminded me of your post “topping from the bottom.” I think there’s a fine line between ceding power and being able to stop if it goes to far, and “topping from the bottom.” I want and have the first, but want to be careful not to get into the second category.
I also enjoyed the chapters and parts on men who want “authenticity” and all of us reacting to erotic illusions. Great book and I am glad I read it and shared it with you, Andi, and others. I would love to hear your final thoughts. Also, you had asked me to tell you, this comment is solely on your blog this time. I am not leaving anything similar or comparable on Andi’s blog.
I hope this finds you well.
Thanks for your comment Bfla and I apologize for the delay. I’m so glad you enjoyed A Billion Wicked Thoughts…..I did too and, like you, loved that there is the huge diversity for so many people! IE I’m so glad I’m not the only pervert! ~grinz~
I loved this part about topping from the bottom:
Some of the descriptions of who is “really” in charge (i.e., the bottoms in gay relationships) were also interesting, and reminded me of your post “topping from the bottom.” I think there’s a fine line between ceding power and being able to stop if it goes to far, and “topping from the bottom.” I want and have the first, but want to be careful not to get into the second category.
Here’s the thing…..the submissive ALWAYS has the right and responsibility to “stop it before it goes too far.” I’m a Mistress who uses safe words for “slow down” and “stop” … I also insist that a submissive communicate when doing serious play! Somehow both parties sort of ‘know’ when there’s topping from the bottom going on …. there’s a push-pull of the energy and it feels “icky” rather than amazing.