What you’ve been waiting for! The new guy’s Femdom fantasy is revealed.
First, we continue with the IM chat so you can see the process of My IM chats and how I coach the man new to Femdom and new to phone sex.
When you call for the first time. Dispatch
empress.olivia: Want Me to go thru what will happen when you call and then coach you in your request?
New Guy: Yes Empress Olivia would love that
empress.olivia: Sure!
empress.olivia: Okay…..you call the Dispatch number and a woman will answer, “Hello may I help you.” If you know the name of the Mistress you’d like to speak with, you simply say, “I’d like to speak with NAME.” On your very first call, the Dispatcher will walk you through the payment stuff. I don’t do any of that and I don’t get ANY of your private and/or financial information.
New Guy: So it is “I’d like to speak with Olivia” or “I’d like to speak with Empress Olivia” ?
empress.olivia: *nods*Â Yes….either way.
New Guy: You know what different payment method there is Empress?
empress.olivia: I actually don’t. I don’t handle any of the payment information but the Dispatchers are great and can answer all of those questions. They’ll take a few minutes to get your information and then you’ll be ‘in the system’ so the next time you call you won’t have to give the info again.
New Guy: Then i wont bother you with those questions Empress Olivia
empress.olivia: Oh, it’s NEVER a bother. I like and encourage questions! And I’m always happy to answer them if I know the answer.
New Guy: Thats good to know Empress Olivia
Who to call? Â Me or another Mistress
empress.olivia: I would LOVE to personally talk with you AND I want to make sure that you’ve got other options of Mistresses too. It’s actually RARE that I’ve been able to talk with you this long on IM. Normally I’m in sessions most of the time so you caught Me at a good time!
New Guy: Oh then im very happy Empress Olivia
empress.olivia: Let Me make sure that you know what to say to ANY Mistress and/or asking the Dispatcher for a recommendation.
empress.olivia: Oh darn. Spoke too soon. Here’s the phone…..keep this window open and I’ll write back as soon as possible.
New Guy: Yes Empress Olivia
HIS Femdom fantasy!
empress.olivia: still there?
New Guy: Yes Empress Olivia
empress.olivia: Great !
empress.olivia: I knew we would get interrupted so thank you for your patience and understanding
empress.olivia: Where was I?
empress.olivia: Okay……here’s My read of what you’re looking for. Here’s your Femdom fantasy.
empress.olivia: You’re looking for a Sensual Femdom who is assertive but not mean. Who can get angry in a sensual way. You’re looking to be a man put in panties (but not a sissy) and then paddled. Some very mild verbal humiliation … no yelling, nothing extreme or mean. With sensual control and Dominance by the Mistress.
empress.olivia: Does that ring true to you?
New Guy: Yes it sounds and feels quite good
Hard on and HARD at work
empress.olivia: *wink*
empress.olivia: Did you get hard reading that?
New Guy: Yes
empress.olivia: EXCELLENT !
New Guy: Hope no one at work notices
empress.olivia: ~laughs~
empress.olivia: You’d probably be surprised just how many men walk around with hardons all day and/or masturbate in the privacy of their office! You’re not alone in being hard and horny at work!
Talking with the Experienced Mistress helps in many ways
empress.olivia: How do you feel otherwise? Do you feel like you are more comfortable with your erotic desires? Did I help you to clarify them?
New Guy: Yes i have always been ashamed for my feelings but it feels better and you seems to have indentified what i like.
empress.olivia: *nods*
empress.olivia: Now, there is erotic shame and then icky bad shame.
empress.olivia: Erotic shame is feeling ‘shame’ but it makes you hard….that’s actually GOOD !
Back to question about sexuality
New Guy: I have another question, does my fantasies about strapon makes me less straight?
empress.olivia: Great question ! Short answer….NO!
empress.olivia: Now, personally I think there are very few people that really ARE totally heterosexual or totally homosexual. I think most people are in the gray area in between the two extremes. For example, I consider Myself straight and very comfortable also being with women. But, I don’t think I could ONLY be with a woman for an extended amout of time without the experience of a dick.
New Guy: I think strapon is one of my biggest turn ons getting hard just thinking of it
empress.olivia: *nods*
empress.olivia: Oh yes. The strapon, I think, in your case is also wrapped up in the submission. It is a submissive act for the straight man to be filled with a strapon.
empress.olivia: I suspect in your case, it’s not homoerotic.
Physical sensations of strapon play
empress.olivia: Now, there’s also something very interesting about strapon play physically. The G spot on a man is his prostate and strapon play, anal play, anal fingering is all stimulating to the G spot (physically).
New Guy: The profile you have painted up for me, does this fit on you Empress Olivia
empress.olivia: Yes it does
New Guy: So strapon play can be humiliating and very physically stimulating at same time
New Guy: and a act of submission
empress.olivia: YES it totally makes sense that something is humiliating AND sexually arousing at the same time.
Make sure you like My voice
empress.olivia: AND, it’s also critical that you like My voice …. because if it’s phone sex, then if I have the wrong *voice* for your fantasy, then that’s a hardon killer. LOL So, go to My blog and click on the My audio page to hear voice samples. My suggestion for you is the one free erotic audio Power Exchange.
New Guy: Yes Empress Olivia as you wish i will go listen to your voice when it’s possible.
Read about the style and thoughts of your potential Mistress
empress.olivia: I did a blog post about the Art of Erotic Humiliation.
empress.olivia: oh no, I’m getting another call…..
empress.olivia: My blog is www.experiencedmistress.com
New Guy: I guess strapon is hard to do on phone
empress.olivia: Not at all …. you use a dildo or butt plug with My instructions.
New Guy: Okay, i may be gone when you are back Empress Olivia
New Guy: Thanks for all your advice and im pretty sure i will love your voice
empress.olivia: awww, thank you !
empress.olivia: And look for this on the blog.
empress.olivia: Again, THANK YOU for allowing Me to post it !
empress.olivia: HAVE FUN !!!!
New Guy: Hope to see you in a session soon Empress Olivia
empress.olivia: You are beginning an exciting journey …..hugs, pinches and panties!
“hugs, pinches and panties” has been called! well done, MsO (the whole conversation and posting it here)!
NOW, the question tommie boy is THIS…….DID he call? And, if he did WHO did he call? You know I talk about a LOT of other Mistresses as well and make LOTS of recommendations. My schedule is days (eastern) and I’m not on overnight. It’s not a *given* he called Me. I’ll post the answer in the coming days. First though you HAVE to find out what happened to the foot fetish guy who wanted his wife to be a Femdom foot Mistress! LOL He’s called Me for phone sex and wants his wife of decades to be like Me. That series was an earlier IM chat 🙂
I wish I had as gorgeous and caring a sexual guide my first time fumbling through phone sex.
I have to say I am also amazed at LDW in general. The professionalism of the dispatchers, the amount of content that is put out on the blogs, EE, audios, etc., the way that the mistresses interact with eachother and encourage us to try new ones.
I really liked the description you gave him of his fantasy. I honestly have never thought to give that sort of description to the dispatcher. My method has alway been, search the websites, possibly email or chat a little with mistress I’m interestd in, call, ask for who I want, and then fumble through the first call with the mistress. Follow up calls have always been easier and better.
I think part of the hesitation of speaking to the dispatcher comes from embarrassment. “Hi, I’d like to speak to someone about being on camera, getting a spanking and maybe eating my cum?”
this is great reading. So has he called, will we get the details?
@ wellspanked …. Now see…..I totally learn from y’alls posts and comments. I remember some of My first visits to sex shops. You wouldn’t know it seeing Me now but the first trips were sooooooo agonizingly *blush* fraught with emotions. Don’t worry, I get it!
I can often ‘tell’ that the guy is nervous talking with the dispatcher and unless he’s looking for a girly young voice, the dispatchers will send him to Me (if I’m logged in and not on a call). I actually LOVE calls like that because it feels so great to *tease* out what he’s looking for and THEN as he gets more comfortable (and aroused) he starts to talk (or babble LOL). I love being able to inspire and help him to create that!
I sometimes think it’s different, maybe a bit easier, to talk about your fantasy with Me because I don’t have your private information (like the real stuff you do need to give for your credit card info). But, I can tell you categorically that you don’t need to be at ALL shy with the Dispatcher. Many are or have been phone sex entertainers themselves. ALL are totally skilled (Ms Ally is to thank for the professionalism here at LDW). AND, believe Me, they’ve heard all kinds of things! ~laughs~
SERIOUSLY, we want you happy! We want you having fun, getting fantastic calls, having mind blowing orgasms. (Okay, if you’re into denial then we want you to suffer. LOL If you crave the mindfuck we want you tormented! You get the idea.) We don’t take ourselves seriously but we do take enormous pride in the quality of our service. YOU MATTER !!! Please please please (you or anyone) don’t suffer through fumbling through a call (unless you LIKE that!) …. ask Me, ask Ms Ally for a recommendation or contact the sexperts on the Live Help desk.
Hi MsOlivia. I’ve returned from my trip and now hope to be able to catch up on the multitude of posts I see You’ve put up. And for the record, Your voice is much sexier than Tom Bo-d-et’s.
So I really liked this whole series of posts as the chatter explored his fantasies. Certainly it is not easy to just tell them from a standstill, i.e. hard to think of all options, and I think You did a great job asking all the right questions.
I am somewhat surprised that strap-ons came up so late though. Granted, they’re not everyone’s cup of tea to say the least, but they are most certainly a very powerful item in the Femdom repertoire. In fact, in my own classification, the strap-on, thigh-high boots, and riding crop are the things that would make me melt. Ahem, digression in progress. 🙂
And I can say emphatically, that having thoughts about them does not make one gay in the least. For me, it’s all about the role reversal. The woman in complete control in the domain typically that of the man’s. But the thing about it also, is what the strap-on is connected to. A woman. It’s the woman wielding this toy, not another man. And yeah, that brings up another digressive thought I’ve had for a while. As much as I love feet (and got to *finally* see a lot this weekend at the warmer locale I visited), the fake sex toy feet are a complete turnoff to me because of what they are *not* attached to. They are not attached to a woman. By themselves, they are just latex (or whatever they are made from). The strap-on is the same. Nothing by itself, but attached….hoo boy…. I am so going to invest in scotch guard here. 🙂
@ magnus …. I’m going digress too. I was in Nome, Alaska and found out that was the home of Tom Bo-d-et. (‘m careful not to use names of *civilians* that don’t give consent to be on a phone sex blog.) I was SO EXCITED !! No, not sexy excited but what a fun thing to learn about a sleepy lil town. There’s a cafe that has a huge coffee cup at the side of the building that has the BEST fresh grilled halibut. Okay, I digress too! LOL
Now, back to our regularly scheduled sex talk. *nods* You’re right about strap on questions for someone new to Femdom. Sometimes I *lead* the conversation and other times I let it *evolve* …. it’s generally a combo of the two interviewing/conversational techniques. Sometimes I don’t take the lead on purpose to check out how submissive he is in reality or if he wants the submissive sex fantasy that he carefully controls. Nothing wrong with either one but we DO have to be on the same page or things get icky during the call!
You’re so right…….My experience with fetish has shown that getting turned on by something doesn’t really MEAN anything. It means you’re turned on by what you’re turned on by. LOL No particular story there…..it’s one of the things that just *is* … kind of like when it’s raining that doesn’t ‘mean’ anything about you or your plans….it’s simply raining, it just IS. And, you’ve done a great job saying that the context is important (or, as you said, when the sex toys are attached to a beautiful Femdom then…… LOL……sticky time!
Welcome home! 🙂