Chronic masturbator, guess what? YOU are the winner of the Cookie Jar Challenge! You win with your lovely long and descriptive comment of your masturbation habits. I love that you know the term Masturbatrix. And, it sounds like you are perfectly aware of how important it is to choose the right phone sex Mistress when you want the perfect type of cock control. Send Me an email and I’ll let you inside Olivia’s Cookie Jar! 🙂 Just send your email to olivia AT enchantrixempire.com
By the way Alice Wonder and Forrest Hicks got VERY close to winning! Thank you to everyone who is playing!
THIS Week’s Cookie Jar Challenge Involves Male Submission
The Cookie Jar Challenge questions are below. Answer and and all. Comments posted Monday/Tuesday are double points. Wednesday and Thrusday regular value points. Friday postings have a half point value. One hundred words equals one point.
So, this week, it’s really anything you’d like to say about male submission. This was inspired by a special phone sex caller. We’ve done a variety of sessions and I was his introduction to the delicious world of phone sex.
He’s a naughty slut and willing to do and try all sorts of things for his Mistress. Since I am The Experienced Mistress I have lots sexy humiliation assignments for him to do.
Male Submissive and Loving It
For someone new to male submission or for someone who already loves a great pair of legs … stimulating that leg fetish by combining it with male submission is delightful erotic torture!
This particular caller loves erotic humiliation!
Mistress Dominates Her New Submissive
During an especially naughty session I felt he was ready for new sexual adventures. I combined the thrill of doing his assignments and performing for Mistress. As he was beginning to orgasm, I ordered him to hold his hand up and lick his own cum! And, he did it!
His Reaction to Mistress Olivia
Later he told Me that he had never been able to eat his own cum before but he was so aroused during the call that he just obeyed the sound of My voice! He was thrilled and embarrassed at the same time! Here’s what he had to say:
First time cum eater: “I want to do any task that she asks for. I want to please my mistress in any way so she has 100% satisfaction. I get to be humiliated and tormented for her amusement. It should be a win win for the both us. Olivia is very persuasive and pushes your limits to the next level.”
What do you think your next sexual adventure will be?
What is YOUR next level? Is it deeper submission? Another fantasy? Another fetish?
Ms Olivia
That is beautiful! I’ve drank my own cum & to hear a great story like that is just beautiful! Mistress Olivia must’ve been very happy as Mistress got to see it with her own eyes! Just had to comment on that post! Great work Mistress Olivia! Love what you’re doing to us males as well!!! Mmmmmmm. We’re here to serve!
Hello Timm!
Thank you for commenting! ~grinz~ And, I love what I’m doing to you males as well! *wink*
I was working that heavy tall lamp post again last night which I know you love me to do now until I was soaked with sweat while looking at your shots and listening to your audios and wishing that I was worshiping your sexy feet, kissing the sexy arches and sucking your toes.
You own me.
xoxo
*wiggles My sexy toes* and urges that full 8 inches to pump and stroke! Go! Go! Go!
I would have to say that I am very new to the world of male submission. I do admittedly have a slightly submissive personality but at other times I can be a take charge kind of guy as well. And most of this also has to do with sexuality, a subject I have very little experience with. Well actually no experience with.
Dear Forrest….most people have various sides of their personality. I’m not a Domme all the time….altho I must admit I do have a secret fantasy of strutting through the Farmer’s Market here wearing thigh high boots and carrying a Mistress whip. Can you imagine? “I’ll have THOSE portabella mushrooms NOW!” *cracks whip* ~laughs~ Okay so seriously. I think there is such a thing as a “submissive nature” but it’s all about what you enjoy. My experience with take charge people is that they usually DO want a break some time! It’s all about variety! Personally, since the writing/thinking that I do is inside, when I go on vacation I want to be outside and physical. Male submission has been described as a “vacation” from real life by some people. Does that ring true for you?
I have to say that is not really true for me. I would really have to say I do have a submissive nature. I really am not the kind of person who likes to tell people what to do but I really am not a follower either. Sometimes I feel like I am stuck in the middle. If I were to take a vacation from real life I would enjoy it more if I am waited on, having all my needs taken care of without me having to say a thing. My take charge personality usually only comes out when it is nessesary, like in times when no one else can think of what needs to be done, its not even something I can turn on and off.
Are you more of an anarchist Forrest? Maybe a live and let live kind of libertarian? Actually, I’m sort of in the *middle* as well…. well, a bit more on the Dominant side naturally but still very live and let live. I did crack up at your comment about taking a vacation from real life and being waited on. Okay, y’all know that we’ve got some amazing and wickedly creative Ladies here….but these blog posts by Ms Ivy are absolutely beyond what even I imagine for creativity! I thought of Ivy’s series on Fembot Ivy is one of the funniest things I’ve read here. Take a look! I dare you to take one of THESE on vacation! ~laughs~
Hehehe I did read Ms Ivy’s Fembot Ivy series it was hilarious and so where some of the comments on it as well, especially alicewonders. Taking one of these on vacation is a great idea, just make sure you keep up on the maintenance.
~laughs~ OMG, yes Forrest…..that Fembot Ivy is not to be handled lightly! I love that amazingly creative Mistress! Ms Ivy can have you laughing then moaning and begging all in the same phone sex call! Love it!
Also, forgot to mention that during my session with the lamp post last night, I decided to pick up the heavy post and curl it with my arms, down and up hard against my throbbing cock over and over as sweat rolled down my heaving chest to my cock, wishing that I was curling you in my arms while my frustrated meat aches for harder and harder domination.
~laughs~ I love that 8 inch! It’s the Mistress curl! You know, I really think a Mistress exercise tape would be amazing! “One MORE rep dammit or you’ll suffer the consequences!” That’s making Me smile today, thank you!
Hi MsOlivia, soooo… submission. Well, it’s something I’ve thought a lot about. Shocking, I know. I look at it like this. What it is can be almost what anyone wants it to be. Within reason, I mean. It’s not a BLT…. though… mmm, bacon….. Stay on the subject, magnus, right. I’ve done a lot of reading on the subject as I like to know what’s out there, what people think. And what they think is all over the place. Ask a bunch of people and you’ll get a bunch of answers. There is no one answer.
More on that in a second because it’s time for a diversion. (Come on, You knew one was coming.) In my reading something else I have noticed and it’s kind of a pet peeve of mine. I just mentioned there are different opinions and I am all for that. What I am not for is when people, and there are a lot of them, too many actually, that treat Dominance and submission a lot like what politics and religion are. No, not things never to discuss. Rather, things that some people think they have cornered the market on. Things that they know the true way and all other ways are wrong. Bugs the crap out of me when someone thinks that the couple exploring their kinky side is not really into the scene. Or if someone may have their own opinions on something (*gasp!* The horror of it all!!) is not really a submissive because she or he doesn’t completely think only of the dominant one and defer to him or her on something. Or even some might think that someone can’t even be a submissive unless they have a dominant. I mean, who made them the BDSM police to decide what’s right for others?
Sooo… stepping down from my soapbox after that little mini rant here, I’ll continue that submission is what one makes of it. For me, it’s a giving of one self for another’s pleasure. That’s not to say the giver doesn’t get pleasure from that giving. I say he or she does and… oh what the hell, let me digress again… I often here others say that the whole BDSM thing is for the dominant’s pleasure not the sub’s. I call bullshit. Why would someone submit if they didn’t enjoy doing so? Rhetorical question. The sub gets off on submitting. Maybe he or she receives pain. Maybe it’s denial. Maybe servitude. Whatever. They are submitting because they enjoy it. One might get off on being a “slave”, but guess what? Slavery is illegal and anything not within the bounds of being consenual is against the law. So, the person in the submissive role is doing so by choice because they want to. So BDSM is for everyone’s pleasure though that pleasure may take on different forms?
Back to the topic at hand, magnus? Why sure, MsOlivia, I’d love to. Where was I? So, submission is a giving of oneself. It’s putting myself into a position where I focus on someone else’s pleasure (though receiving my own, see above). It’s putting myself into a role of letting someone else be in charge, controlling me. One more thing, sort of a digression, kinda. I just said the word “role”. While it might be blasphemy in some people’s eyes, (Hmm, eyes the soapbox again…), I do not believe that dominants are superior to me. I believe we are equals though some of us take different roles in the relationship. So my submission is putting myself into the submissive role whereas someone else puts herself into the dominant role. It may be just because that’s natural to them or it could also be trying something new or, in the case of a switch, deciding how they feel at that moment. It’s all good. For me, it would be wanting to please and voluntarily doing that pleasing.
~hands magnus a BLT with homegrown tomatoes that actually have flavor, not just color~
mmmmmmmmm bacon!
Okay…..so to your rant. As an aside (you knew THAT was gonna happen, too, didn’t you?)…..I adore your diversions! LOL
Ah…..yes. The dreaded MINE is the only true path attitude. *sigh* I think that’s just part of human nature. You’re right, it’s front and center with Politics and Religion. Many people treat BDsm or fetish scene play AS religion and for some, it’s a physical expression of anarchist politics. For others, it’s simply sex. For others it’s intellect made made in the physical realm. But, wherever you find any level of PASSION you will find the joy of intolerance, absolutism and lots of folks into “being right.”
pffft
It’s simply human nature.
I don’t debate. I simply state My boundaries with someone that I’m going to play with…..we don’t have to be an exact fit, but we do have to be a good fit to play, or be friends, or whatever it is we’re doing together.
I was watching the West Wing the other day and one of the things they talked about is how hard it is to fight for someone else’s right to be an asshole screaming at me for being “wrong.” ~laughs~ I LOVE the absolutists. I don’t like being around them, but I love that we’re in a place with the freedom to have them there and yelling at me. I love that I can LEAVE and go find company more to my liking. ~smiles~
I digress.
Like you magnus, I cherish the GIFT OF SUBMISSION. I thought I wrote a bunch of blog posts on that topics….but when I do a search I don’t find them. So, I guess that means I need to write some more!
THANK YOU for the inspiration! 🙂
Male submission
What is male submission to me?
I am a firm believer in equality. I believe that all humans are fundamentally inherently equal and deserve to be treated as such. There are differences. Some people are tall, some people are short, some people are skinny, some people are hairy, some people are smart, some people are deaf, some people are trans-gendered, some people are homosexual, some people are dominant, some people are submissive. Those differences do not make anyone inherently better than anyone else. They are traits. Some traits we can change, some we can’t, but they are all traits.
From that perspective, what is male submission? I believe I have submissive nature. It is something I enjoy giving to a dominant woman, but I would like to emphasize the word give.
In role play my submission is something a dominant woman can demand of me, but only because I have already given it to her. My submission is a gift I enjoy giving to a dominant woman who enjoys receiving it. If she doesn’t want it then I can not give it to her. If I do not want to give it she can not demand it of me. In that respect, we both on that level are still balanced and equal because we both are voluntarily entering into the dynamics of a dominant / submissive relationship. Submission is thus an expression of freewill.
I do not know very much about taoism but I am very familiar with yin yang symbol. It is a beautiful artistic representation of polar opposites flowing together as one, and that is how I like to look at dominance and submission. The dominant can not exist without the submissive and vice versa, they flow together to create a balanced unit that need each other. And just like the yin yang has a white dot in the black swirl and a black dot in the white swirl, the dominant has an aspect of submission and the submissive has an aspect of dominance. This to me is the aspect of trust. The dominant has to be submissive to the submissive’s limits and the submissive has to express what those limits are to the dominant. Both have to be there or it doesn’t work.
So what is male submission? Male submission is when the male recognizes that he is better off under the control of a deserving woman. When he understands that he needs the feminine perspective, the feminine guidance, the feminine correction, the feminine compassion to be a complete person. When he yearns for that and finds a woman who is willing to give it to him, the circle is complete and it is a very beautiful thing.
I believe as a species, Homo sapiens is at an evolutionary crossroad. Evolution is not an entity, evolution experiments to see what works and then uses natural selection to weed out what does not work. At least in recent history, most societies have been dominated by the male. There are some exceptions but generally we have has patriarchal societies where the woman is in general subservient to the man. I believe this experiment is failing. I’m not just saying that because LDW is a femdom site, I’m saying it because it appears that for whatever reason, testosterone or something else, males have humongous egos and this ego is I believe what is ultimately responsible for most wars and conflicts. And not just wars, our egos result in inhumane competition in the business world. We like to drive our competition out of the market with no regard for who they employ or the devastation caused by crushing our competition when we could have been happy and successful without crushing them. We have this insatiable lust for power and the more we get we the more we want. It is a real ugly part of the male species that perhaps is a leftover from our more primitive evolutionary history when it may have been necessary for the passing on our genetic material.
But what formerly worked to the advantage of the species is now in a global technologically advanced culture I believe working to the disadvantage of the species, and we are at a crossroad where we are discovering we need the female of species to keep us in check, to tame that ego, to put us in our place, to become the dominant sex. If we as a species are survive we must become a matriarchal species where the feminine side of the species prevails over the masculine side. It is not an easy transition to make but I believe it is a necessary one or we will go extinct as the weapons of mass destruction we create become even more deadly and sinister in their design.
Nutshell summary: On a personal level, male submission is recognition that I am an incomplete person that needs the guidance of a dominant woman to complete me. On a society level, I believe male submission is recognition that our species is fucked if men keep running the show. The yin needs the yang.
WOW ! As always Alice, you’ve given Me a LOT to think about and this is one of the many things I adore about you!!!!!
I’m actually going to do a series of blog posts about submission. You and magnus both have inspired Me. I looked for My earlier blogs about the Gift of Submission and for whatever reason they’re not coming up in the search box…..which means it’s time to write more.
I particularly loved what you said about trust and that visual about trust. I think the key to ANY relationship is communication. And for accurate, real communication to exist there has to be trust. The trust level is what defines the intimacy level of the relationship. It’s very EASY to trust someone with the information that I like to do the stair climber at the gym. It’s much more difficult to trust a sexual partner with intimacies of what I enjoy sexually with my body. One is simply casual and doesn’t hold any charge if someone look at me and says, You’re crazy, I hate the stair climber. The other can be very wounding if a lover says something WTF, you like ass play, ICK!
Thinking of your yin and yang……could the other side of trust be risk? Like if trust is the yin, then risk is the yang…..not the masculine/feminine aspects….but most of the two sides needing one another aspect. What do you think?
So I messed up bu saying ,” you saw it!” my bad, but still, that is just awesome to hear that you made a male drink his own cum!!
HUH? You didn’t mess up at all! I’m not sure what you’re talking about there……:)
But it really IS great to have a man drink his own cum for the first time. This is a fantasy that many men have….but, once the orgasm happens, the lose the desire to taste their own cum. It’s tricky to do this as a Mistress. Often, I’m successful. ~smiles~ And, when I am………*wink*
“What do you think your next sexual adventure will be?”
Not sure but I think it might involve 8inch. A bit awkward but that lamp post is a pretty impressive visual.
I like to tell myself the MAG-LITE Xenon Mini Flashlight is also impressive because I really know how to use it and that’s what really matters to the ladies.
Maybe I’m just fooling myself.
Is the Cookie Jar on hiatus for retooling? That was fun. Keep up the good work Ms. O.
~laughs~ Great post as always John! I love the visual of re-tolling used in the same comment as the words 8 inch and lamp post. Only HERE would all those go together! ~laughs~
Yes on the re-tolling of the Cookie Jar…..I’m thinking of how best to do this and use this. 🙂 It’ll be back, because I think it’s snazzy but right now I’m working on adding in some sexy posts that are just plain sex! Imagine that! I’m sure I’ll get sidetracked with all kinds of things (you know me!).
Thanks for sharing that, Ms. Olivia! I love how an experienced Mistress can sense just the right moment to throw something out of the ordinary at them and know that they will do it because of their heightened state of arousal. One of the things I enjoy most is when, during the pillow-talk afterward, they say to me “I cannot believe I did that! I cannot believe you made me want to do that!”
I’m loving your challenges and can’t wait to see what’s next!
Thanks Ms Hunter! You and I have done calls together so I know you know! There is something that *happens* when a man is aroused…..pffftttt, beyond the obvious …. there is a lowering of inhibitions. And you are an erotic expert that can get him to do all sorts of things! ~laughs~ Oh yes, you’re right. There’s pillow talk even after phone sex when he’s going. whaaaaa whaaaaaa, ohhhhhhhhhhh. Challenging are so much FUN!
Listening to the sound of your voice Ms Olivia could make me do just about anything. I find it no surprise that your caller told you:
“he had never been able to eat his own cum before but he was so aroused during the call that he just obeyed the sound of My voice!” Now that put a smile on my face today. Hugs, Ms Alex
~laughs~ Why THANK YOU Ms Alexandria! The only thing better than the sultry sound of the voice of one Mistress …. is the cock teasing from two Women who really know that we’re doing! ~winks~ And I’ve done enough calls with you to know we’re an amazing team! I, personally, love hearing your voice and hearing what you do to these poor guys! ~laughs~ You tie them in knots and more! Wicked, delightful and soooooooo much erotic, sexy fun! I love playing with you!