Searching for your phone sex playmate.
Phone sex is just like real life relationships in that you (and I) intuitively know when we’re a good fit together. You can probably tell on the blog that I’m easy going and an experienced Mistress. I connect with the vast majority of people and I enjoy the variety of sexual fantasies that we do here.
How to connect with your potential Mistress before a session
There are so many ways to do this. Reading blogs is one way to get a feel for a potential partner. Another way is to listen to her audios. We have two sites with tons of free erotic audios — Tease Mania has lots of variety and Get Girlie is more geared to crossdressers and sissies (still with lots of variety).
Don’t be shy about emailing Me with your specific erotic interests, needs and fantasies. You can also ask questions via email or on My blog. My email is olivia AT enchantrixempire.com — please note that once you start cybering I will ask for a session to get age verification on you. I’m more than willing to help you set up your session though.
You know it when you see or hear it
Here’s an example of one email and you can use this as a sample, if you like, of your email to Me.
I’ve known myself as a submissive for the past (( X )) years.
I don’t know why, but I keep finding myself drawn back to your page, photos and voice laced with dual intentions…
I’m trying to find a good fit for my submissive mental make-up, and have been bouncing around various “control”, Dom/sub sites recently to hopefully discover someone I have really good chemistry with in relation to the interests below.
HE LISTS HIS INTERESTS but he doesn’t cyber…there’s a subtle difference but I know it when I see it (and, I suspect, so do you ~smiles~).
(( He wants to CONFESS and explore new fetish interests.)) Over the years, while I’ve witnessed the natural change and evolution of these interests, there are a few select fetishes I’ve honed and remained steadfast with in that time. The following should summarize my “buttons” in a nutshell:
Does that help you? Some of you aren’t shy about what you want so this is more of a guide to those who are curious and need a place to start your playtime with the Experienced Mistress.
You & I both know I’m your lipstick lesbian sissy pet, we’ve had great calls for last 5 years and they only keep getting better! As I told on Ms Coopers blog I really need masterbatrix mistress to help me with guided masterbation and make me explode instead of cumming 3 minutes into 30-60 minute call! I want calls to be total blast and not explode that soon. That’s where you come into play! I want you and other mistresses to keep me hard by kissing me touching my soft cheeks with your soft French manicures hands. I’m your sissy sub.
Really peter? When you did calls with Ms Violet and Me you were always able to “hold on” until the end of your call. ~smiles~ It sounds like you DO need a Mistress!
This is a great post regarding BDSM relations in cyberspace, which can be a hard topic to address in both a sexy and informative manner…I don’t know how you do it, but you do it well! Cheers to you!
Thank you so much for your comment Ms Chelsea! You’re right, it’s difficult to “negotiate” any kind of relationship because there’s a sort of myth that “good relationships just happen” but that’s not true. Good relationships happen when there’s clear communication, agreements, spoken expectations, etc. I think things get glommed up when there are unmet expectations and miscommunication. “Glommed up” isn’t equal to sexy in My book! ~smiles~ I’m enjoying getting to know you …. you Princes of Mean you! ~grinz~
This post really got me to thinking how we connected. I remember when I first contacted a Mistress on LDW. It was Ms Carmen. It was funny because I just looked at her picture and something drew me in. From the first we talked easily and freely to each other. I do miss her. She actually referred me to you. She thought we would make a real connection and she was right beyond any expectation I could have hoped for. I know we pay for the service and you are doing a job, but there is more to it than that. It is a great therapy at least for me. Dressing up and talking to you about all the wonderful things we would do at our wedding is just a great relief to me. Most of us crossdressers have to lead very testosterone driven lives and it is such a relief to let the estrogen take over for a few hours so we can be girly without being judged or ridiculed. Unless being humiliated is your particular turn on 🙂 Thanks for being there for us 🙂
always with love
You’re so right yvonne! This really is way more than just the ‘service’ because we develop real relationships (within the boundaries appropriate to this venue). You are delightful and I thoroughly enjoy our connection. In fact, you’re the one that inspired My http://www.crossdressersphonesex.com blog…..((hanging My head)) which I haven’t kept up with the posts but I’ll get back to posting there, I promise! At any rate, I’m ~smiling~ that you’re in My life and I’m in yours 🙂 ~lipstick kisses~ to the pretty bride!
I really adore this post! It is so useful for men to do a bit of research when looking for the right Mistress! Audios and Blogs really do tell them a lot. The email you suggest is simply PERFECT. But then again, so are you 😉
Awwww…..thank you Ms Delia! As you can tell from today’s post I have my fair share of Wicked Thoughts about you too! ~grinz~
I love telling you all my sexual secrets, but really what else can I say. I just to do whatever You say Mistress Olivia
I have been able to hold on but with magic wand it makes it tougher, just have to tell you I have toys, and make it last till end of call, it should be week and half then I’m ready to start calling, tough couple month with home projects, but now card is paid in full means more calls. Also do clients call daily? I’m thinking calling daily or 2-3 times a week for shorter calls, what do you think?
You’re so right peter! That magic wand is a wicked fun sex toy isn’t it? Ohhhhhhhhhh!
Dear Mistress Olivia, this sounds very familiar to me, since it reading Your blog and listening to You audios caused me to seek You out. Boy am i glad i did! The thing i most like is that our relationship is not just cyber for me. My devotion to You is as real as the redness on the shelf and sweet spot of my ass after one of our sensation play sessions. i actually feel more connected to You than i do my dominatrix that i visit every month (or so). You truly are an Experienced Mistress and i count Your deeming worthy of serving You as Your Chastity slave one of the great privileges currently in my life. For those who are undecided about the right Mistress for them, they owe it to themselves to at least give You a call and let You take them fora test drive.
~smiles~ I’m glad you called too kneel! You’re right, our relationship is much more than “just” the kinks or the erotic talk….we’ve talked about everything! ~smiles~ And still do! 🙂 I did have to laugh when you mentioned the sweet spot on your ass …. ahhhhhhh …. such a pretty bare bottom to spank! ~grinz~